Maybe at the root of it all we don't trust others and have thousands of different happy masks and intellectual fragments to endlessly entertain others with, while secretely evaluating their performance and reactions to them.
Good thing in most cases its all guided by our ultra-idealistic [and sometimes childish] Fi's, huh?
Sure talking to us is to step in a minefield. But its a very pleasant one, wouldn't you agree? As a general rule, I feel compelled to make others feel at ease when they get caught in my web. I'll change the colors to match their preferences and put on some nice music in the background..
I must have read somewhere that maybe the architecture of an ENFP revolves around protecting an oversensitive Fi. [Careful though, I just threw at you another one of those fragments you seem to dislike..]