Thanks so much for you input, PeaceBaby!!
I see exactly what you are saying.
First of all, I had the best sex with my ESJ ex, he was always super down to both please me and explore with me, never at all judging me, and he always was very sexually present, if you know what I mean.
Also, I am an extrovert, but I always enjoy kind of taking the passenger seat in a relationship.
ESJs love to be the center of attention, or they just kind of take center stage and that's that, but still, as you say, highly dedicated and loyal!!!
Dana my ESJ ex, wanted me to move in with him after our first date, and he never ever played games with me. He loved me and wanted me, and I never had to read between the lines.
This guy I am sorta talking to now, I've known for awhile yet never gave him the time of day, I found out he had a crush on me and was kinda taken aback, (I just assumed he liked flashier types of girls), he drives an S-class Mercedes *barf* and is sort of materialistic, but he is super considerate, and sincere, and OH MY GOD HONEST!!!
He is refreshingly honest.
His extroversion brings out my introversion, and I like that.
Still on the fence.
I will say this, we do have amazing chemistry.
Thanks again for your input!