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[NF] NF's: What is your primary love language?

the state i am in

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qt = f or i?
acts of service = te?
words of affirmation = f?
gifts = t?
touch = everyone with a pulse?

just talking off the top of my head...
 

Poki

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affirmation when doubts arise
quality time when social doubt arise
physical touch when romance is needed
acts of service when life gets hectic
gifts when you just cant afford it

so what do you need today?
 

Wyst

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I have two - quality time and physical touch.
 

Lexicon

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Quality time, [far] above anything else.
 

Neutralpov

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Not a touchy subject

Words of Affirmation 10 :cheese:
Quality Time 8
Acts of Service 9
Touch 3
Gifts 1


Maybe I just haven't had big gift givers in my life.
 

Thessaly

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Epic as in your shared intensity will cause an epic explosion that will shatter the bounds of the universe?

Pretty much. It will be the stuff dreams are made of. Magic, if I may.
 

Mempy

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Quality time is probably high up there, along with words of affirmation, acts of service and... what was the fifth? I remember the gifts thing. That's probably the last thing on my list. What was the fifth? *scrolls* Oh, physical touch. That's probably high up there too, but since I'm fairly convinced that quality time is number one and that words of affirmation are really wonderful, it probably falls somewhere in the middle.
 

sade

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Quality Time 33%
Physical Touch 23%
Words of Affirmation 23%
Acts of Service 13%
Receiving Gifts 7%

It's not the amount, but the quality of time. Physical touch.. yup.
 

WieldingTheSword

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I had a three-way tie between words of affirmation, quality time, and acts of service. I got basically nada on gifts, with physical touch somewhere in the middle.

This is me exactly.

I've come to see something particularly interesting: I think love languages differ per the person whom I am referring to. As far as universally, I think I am mostly a words and quality time person. But romantically, I think acts of service become way more important.

A friend of mine also pointed out that it seems that two of the languages, acts of service and quality time, are more of the deep, committed nature and that N's almost always seem to have one of them in their top two. I think this thread seems to support that idea, as far as NF's are concerned :)
 

Wild horses

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My primary love language is.... probably saying lots of stuff that I don't mean :D:D:D
 

Alchemiss

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Thanks for this post! I bought this book a while ago and only read part of it but took the quiz because of your post and am glad I did. Physical touch was predominant and quality time was a distant second. This explains some previously inexplicable wonky-ness that arises between my husband and I occasionally. Very useful info. :yes:
 
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