I know an ESFP.
He is my closest friend atm, which doesn't say much because I don't have many.
I am an atypical INFP and about a year ago, when I moved for the 16th time, I suddenly because HUGELY introverted -- used to be ENFP -- to the point that I couldn't even hold a conversation with someone because them looking at me was painful.
He was my first friend. And I absolutely can't stand his awesome, caring, unorthodox nature of living.
Most people are self-centered enough to not care how I'm feeling, or to be distracted when they ask me a question and I deflect.
(I.E. "What do you think about this guy?" they ask.
I say, "What do you think about this guy?" Or some other question about themselves.) 99% it works. But NOO, not for Mr. ESFP.
He is the only one who even Notices that I deflect. Not even my Best Friend, another INFP, notices as well as he does.
And when I ask him a personal question, sometimes HE even deflects -- I RARELY ever encounter someone who deflects -- and if he doesn't, he follows up his answer with a personal question to me.
And I feel so uncomfortable because I'm not used to that level of attention and caring.
Also, the part I need HELP with:
He keeps insisting on asking me these personal questions and I never answer.
I hardly say anything around him. I want to, and a bunch of words come up in my mind, but whenever I'm about to say it, I stop because he doesn't understand me.
I am a HUGE N, and that basically dictated my life 90% of the time.
Being around him brings my N down a LITTLE, but it's still a huge, flaming N. And he's still a pretty big S.
I try to express myself and it's just failure.
So I don't bother, in to him it seemingly results in awkward silences.
It's not that I have nothing to say, it's that I do have stuff to say, but I don't.
What do I do?
P.S. it probably doesn't help that I'm starting to fall for him. =(