I decided to get into it anyway, see below.
Anger does not need to lead to hate, nor frustration to helplessness; one should learn to control his emotions before his "river" takes those courses. Those who don't, aren't monitoring their negative feelings appropriately and cause more harm than productive good.
Frustration and anger often follow parallel courses; in my experience with men like your father (and mine) Frustration often does lead to Anger, especially with more immature types. Frustration (internal) should not be--Fe speaking--an emotion to be vented in the form of Anger (external) onto others, but often is.
Frustration is internalized anger. You almost said it...just not quite. F-types, who feel emotion in such a broad spectrum often miss some of the finer shades--I agree that we sometimes mistake it. Other times it comes out in shades of arrogance and anger that were clearly borne out of that frustration; what you described Poki, was one scenario; that doesn't happen between T and F, everytime. Sometimes, it's very much a T-compressed, negative emotion that starts taking a civil conversation down the wrong path. Other times, it's an F-brained, overreaction.T types get frustrated because they dont include F. F type assumes frustration is anger, gets angry back. Causes T type confusion. T types notices anger, responds with anger. Anger leads to anger which leads to anger.........someone finally crashes or gives up.
Keep in mind, for Fe types, environmental emotion is personal; if we detect it, it may as well have been said. You can't help that. Just keep in mind that when we are the reason you are frustrated, we feel dumb, so we get angry, because neither of us have the communication skills necessary to reach the other. Patience is in order. And like I said, use your quarternary to support your primary. IMHO, this is a start to reaching Fe's without matured Ti in an entertaining, comprehensive, mature manner.