Biaxident, dude, I feel your pain, man. I know what that can be like. A girl named Nichole (one of those blasted, awesome INFPs)--took about 3 years for me to truly get over her completely...though I probably should've dated more during the meantime, it might've kept my mind off things.
It's rare that I come across someone like her. For the ENFJ, my two most compatibles are rare indeed, and when you look at the women, they are almost non-existant.
When people shut down and stop communicating, there's a reason for it.. life transitions and changes do that... I think it can be nice and easy to explain.... When I posted this, I had no idea whatsoever, and felt I needed to understand what happened.. it was a new experience for me, and I felt lost - a loss - and lousy.
'Seemed to be consensus that I should bag it... If he valued the friendship, well...