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    Quote Originally Posted by Coeur View Post
    There are advantages to these traits in reasonable doses, but you can't let them run rampant. It is immature for me to say: "I'm sensitive. Now, I have the right to throw a tantrum." Instead, I need to think thing such as: "As a sensitive person, maybe I am overreacting to this situation. Maybe I should look at it objectively" OR "I need to set proper boundaries in this relationship so that I don't get hurt." Etc.
    Indeed.

    I can see that you aren't like that because you didn't take my statement the wrong way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    Indeed.

    I can see that you aren't like that because you didn't take my statement the wrong way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coeur View Post
    Life is too short to release the hounds on every person with an opinion. XD
    This is a great line. Props.
    The probability that I was procrastinating when I was typing this post:

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    Eh, I'll finish it later.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cenomite View Post
    This is a great line. Props.
    Thanks. Would you like a hound? *hands puppy*
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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    INFX people are really complicated for no reason a lot of the time. If you look at other types, they get along in the world just fine and aren't complicated.
    Of course, the other types have no problems in the world. The key is to be just like them.

    The trick is to break these traits and become normal. But a lot of people won't do that.
    Normal? By whose standards?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    INFX people are really complicated for no reason a lot of the time. If you look at other types, they get along in the world just fine and aren't complicated.


    I think a lot depends on what a person wants from life, and expectations [ one's own and other peoples and "societies"]. Some people are innovators, others walk around in mini-skirts and go-go boots and say things like "I love starbucks! I'm so perky and popular!"

    Perhaps I am jumping off from your post to something else that you didn't mean, but I'd say its important for people to both be able to 1) contribute what they can, and 2) to "adequately function" in society. People will obviously have different ideas of what it means to "adequately function" in society. As a person with an advanced science background let me try to give an example. There are LOTS of very smart scientists [and engineers] out there with great ideas that would push technology and the like. But, and here is the big but, LOTS of them suck so much at "communicating" that they aren't able to convince someone else to support/fund their research. So nothing happens until those scientists [or engineers] learn how to write/talk/communicate in a way that will mean something to the non-scientists to approve and/or fund science/engineering research. And just so no one tries to complain that "Scott is being mean to INTJ/INT's/scientists/engineers again", let me point out that I have talked about this topic with several people in my professional career and they have all agreed and said that they had seen such sorts of people "many times."


    I think a lot of interactions in "society" require very little depth. For example, going to starbucks to get a cup of coffee doesn't require any detailed psychological evaluation or you proving that you thoroughly understand multivariate calculus or any deep heartfelt conversations about your feelings.

    The trick is to break these traits and become normal. But a lot of people won't do that. I don't see how being complicated, overly emotional and hyper sensitive are good traits.
    Complicated people are probably multi-faceted, which might mean they are good at lots of different things. I think the issue is "complicated" something that lets you bring extra skills/assets/abilities to the table, or something that makes you a pain for others at the table to deal with. Really, do we want 1-dimensional people or to deal with them? "OMG Paris Hilton is my favorite person, I want to grow up to be JUST like her"

    Overly emotional, I guess it depends on what you mean by "overly", but if I think of people that volunteer with animals, or children, or foster children I'll bet many of them could be described as "overly emotional." Also, I'll bet that lots of people that are very nurturing could also be described as "overly emotional". Maybe you are referring to "emotional theatrics" or people who get thrown around by the whims of their emotions? Don''t those kinda people make good actors and performers though???

    Hyper sensitive, I think many of my comments about overly emotional apply here as well.

    I still may have missed what you meant though???

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    Quote Originally Posted by Coeur View Post
    Thanks. Would you like a hound? *hands puppy*
    Who told you about my puppy weakness?
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    Eh, I'll finish it later.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cenomite View Post
    Who told you about my puppy weakness?
    Virtually ALL people have puppy weaknesses! Those that don't are probably psychopaths or the like

    note: some people have kitten weaknesses, which is an acceptable substitute for puppy weaknesses

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren Ashley View Post
    :confused:

    Of course, the other types have no problems in the world. The key is to be just like them.

    Normal? By whose standards?
    Bolded- Not really what I meant.

    And "normal" probably wasn't a good term to use, but whatever.

    My point was that having these traits and having them take a negative effect on you should be avoided. Great post btw Scott.

    Lots of the time I've seen (and observed for myself in real life) NFs create a lot of unnecessary issues for themselves for no apparent reason, just because they were either overly emotional/overly sensitive (in a sense that these traits backfired) and/or way too complicated.

    And what I'm trying to say is that you should strive to not let those things as an NF take control of you and cause issues for you. And this relates to the OP because "special treatment" usually means that these traits need to be catered to, but the way I see it is that they are just getting in the way.

    Having a difficult time projecting what I really mean sucks. But in this case it might be due to the fact that I'm doing some hardcore multitasking.

    Quote Originally Posted by Scott N Denver View Post
    note: some people have kitten weaknesses, which is an acceptable substitute for puppy weaknesses
    I have kitten weaknesses.

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    Its all really about balancing the need to fit in at least enough for good communication and fulfilling your own abilities. Some people are very bright but ruin their chances because they want to fit in with the wrong crowd, and some people are very bright but since they never developed the 'fitting in' skills, they can't contribute as effectively. (as Scott said)

    I think the term becoming 'normal' meant becoming more capable in the society's norm.
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