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    Default Too much of an introvert

    Does anyone else feel like they are often too much of an introvert, for example, I get invited to parties but I am usually not up for them unless I know a lot of people that are going; I'm not very into dancing up front with random people I do not know, I'd much rather prefer to meet people in a more formal setting such as a workplace or at school, preferably one-on-one and not a whole group of people either. I don't know what it is but most of the time I just feel like being by myself. Would you say this is a bad thing?
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    No, it's not bad, per se; that's pretty normal for introverts, but it might indicate that you could use some work on exercising the auxiliary function (Fe for you.)

    Try studying ENFJs and see what you can pick up from their approach.
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    I actually do not have any problem talking and conversing and being social with people, and I believe my Fe is quite developed, I just prefer being on my own. At least until school starts back up.
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    ^ Well, no, there's nothing wrong with that.

    Out of curiosity, what is it about being around others that bothers you?
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    I can relate to this. I do feel that I'm too much of an introvert and I think I'm missing out on so many things. For the past year I've practically been like a hermit. And it's worked out for me and helped me sort some things out. But I feel that it's not very healthy to be like that all the time even if I do enjoy it.

    It's not a bad thing if you don't take it to an extreme and deliberately try to close yourself off from the rest of the world.

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    Learning to fake extroversion is usually pretty helpful for a number of reasons, if you're naturally introverted. Extreme introversion will often result in missing a lot of opportunities that you'd never even know existed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by simulatedworld View Post
    ^ Well, no, there's nothing wrong with that.

    Out of curiosity, what is it about being around others that bothers you?


    It's complicated. I just feel like it takes me a long time to get to know people and of course for them to get to know me since I am so reserved. I am not the type of person who will open up immediately, instead, it takes a lot of time and patience and even effort to get to know me and for me to be comfortable enough to share my inner self with the people I have just met. It takes a lot out of me trying to express myself in a way that is true to myself to a person I barely know. I have to know a person in depth to truly be able to communicate with them. Often I just prefer thinking by myself of ideas and things and issues with me and the world and people, formulating my own perspectives. I do it on my own, I don't require other people, although when the time is right, I may seek some guidance in forming these perspectives by gathering the opinions of others.
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    ^ That would indicate underdeveloped Fe, sad to say.

    Everything you're describing about the way you prefer to operate is Ni, and spending so much time on it is the reason you appear introverted (not the other way around.) The problem is that you're trying to use Ni to govern your outer world as well as your inner, and that never works.

    Unfortunately Ni can't really interact properly with the outer world, being an introverted function, so if you want to learn to do that you're going to have to harness your feeling side when it comes to external world interactions. Practice, practice, practice...
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    What about it would you say indicates underdeveloped fe?
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