Now, myself, my father [INFP] was around for the first 10 years of my life. My mother [ISTJ] and he never married, and maintained an on-again, off-again relationship until they ultimately stopped seeing each other. Increasingly, my visits with him became much less and one night when i was 12 he started a fight with my mother's boyfriend (over me, he may have been drunk or summat tho) that made things much difficult for me with him since then (I haven't talked to him in a month :-/) This was also around the time that I started my 'father hunting.' I've only had two boyfriends since i've started high school, but the first one was an ISFJ father type who I liked cuz of how safe he made me feel. But he detected my clinginess and broke it off.
My current boyfriend is INTP, and it's still slightly difficult because I'm doing all I can to keep the same thing from happening - chronic 'rejection' from males. It all comes back to the father thing - however many times I may have wanted to see him but couldn't, to hear him say how special he thought I was and how much he loved me - something that I unconsciously am on the hunt for now. I also believe that my NFness may have stemmed from seeing the dysfuctional relationship my parents had, making me vow to have something completely different. My father was in a similar situation with his parents, something I oh so lovingly inherited...:steam:
...Okay, let me stop here before that becomes a rant, if it hasn't already...(sorry!) But my point is, those basic things are where I see the link and where I think it comes from.
I also read a few books that sparked this whole thing, in case someone'd like to see.
Whatever Happened to Daddy's Little Girl? The Impact of Fatherlessness on Black Women by Jonetta Rose Barras
Life Without Father: Compelling New Evidence That Fatherhood and Marriage Are Indispensable for the Good of Children and Society by David Popenoe