I am in a time of waiting right now and I am searching for answers to the issues in my life to make things better, so here goes...
I always have to have several options mapped out before I take action. Then I analyze what could happen from those, count the cost and become overwhelmed and do the same ole same ole. I know it's because I sound like a bubbling idiot if I don't plan. I am not smooth on the fly, more like choppy seas.
I still don't know what I want out of life, too many possibilities. I married an ESTJ (13 years) and we are kinda like oil and water, but it works. Not a touchy feely relationship. He is a good man, just really rough on my tender INFJ parts. He says I start things without finishing, am uncaring and distant. I seem to gravitate towards ESTJs. I have tons (TONS) in my life, most of them just rub me the wrong way. What am I searching for in an ESTJ if all I want is a nice peaceful life full of substance? I don't want to be alone, I want a deep relationship with my husband.
I have recently figured out I have been motivated by fear, rough childhood. I overthink to cover every single base so there are no bad suprises. Then out of no where I am crying and I don't have a clue...yes I am rambling. I have an issue with anger. Afraid I'll hurt someone so I turn it inward. Trying to use it to write and paint.
Back to questions. How do you CONSTRUCTIVELY deal with over thinking and emotional overload? I have been diagnosed with ADHD and my mind goes 1000 miles a second. Is that a INFJ thing? I don't feel complete. I don't know how I am suposed to live out my purpose. I know what it is, just not how to go about living it. The deep relationships I make get tainted (they fall in love with me and I end it) or being a military wife we move or they move. I hate starting over (moving soon again) and I've isolated myself, even for an INFJ.