I feel I get very disappointed easily and hurt a lot. I know that kind of goes with the territory. I have this inner conflict where I understand that people have their own lives and problems and that I also am super sensitive so I should just chalk some things up to that. But then I also feel like with some people I've let them know that they've hurt me and yet continue to repeat the same hurtful behavior patterns should not just get away with. Anytime I get hurt, the pain is dulled with time and I'm able to enjoy the person's company again, but I don't forget it about it.
An example of this happened today. My brother had been telling me he was coming from NH to VT to visit me all week. Then about an hour ago he decided he was too tired (from partying & drinking w/ his friends all week long) to come. He's done this before and it's very frustrating for me. I know on the one hand he's a college sophomore, and I can remember what that was like (as I was one myself not so long ago). But on the other hand, I definitely did not/have not perpetually blow him off for parties during that time or ever.
Last time he did something like this, I made it clear that I was upset, but this time, there's a part of me that feels he does not even deserve that from me. Part of me, a very immature part, just wants to break all contact with (I will not actually do this) so that he may feel some of the pain that he's caused me.
I will probably do what I usually do and fume about and quietly ache for a bit, while the storm inside me eventually blows over. I feel I am being a bit mellowdramatic, but I can't seem to help. What would other NFs do in this situation?