I'm quite happy to believe experiences that contradict mine - they very often make me see mine in a different light. I believe Jenna when she says that's not how she feels inside.
I'm just pointing out the contrast (as an extravert who's generally quite up on how things look on the outside to an introvert who's quite prone to forgetting things out there aren't always as they are in their head) between how you see yourself and what your own motivations are in your own head, and how they might come across and make you look to others.
You and I are a case in point. I utterly do not see myself or my views or behaviour the way you see me, though since only you and people similar to you have so far seen me that way (believe me, I get told what a lot of different people think of me, an awful lot), I can only presume that it's the opposite working in action - rather than an introvert's internal self slamming up against a contradictory image the outside world has of them, I'm an extravert with my external self slamming up against your internal misconceptions of me.
edit - from here, not addressed to LA
I'm not saying that, just because someone sees you as a grudge holder, that means you are one. Just that you behave in ways similar to one, and the main differences are inside your mind and not generally shared with the rest of us who, not being clairvoyant, tend to draw the obvious conclusion. The solution if you don't like being seen that way would be to share those thoughts that make the difference between you and a grudge holder, more often.
And FFS people, quit this tedious attribution of everything I say on the subject of INFJ's to my "experiences". Jesus, they were years ago. I'm over them already. I'm a type naturally inclined towards detachment anyway. I am a grown-up. I'm 32 years old and have two children. I tie my own shoe laces. I can have a conversation about something without having to bring all my past issues into it. Hoy! *throws hands up in Jewish gesture of exasperation*