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    Quote Originally Posted by EnFpFer View Post
    I know. It's crazy! I don't like him, although I did then but never let myself fall for him. I didn't know it was so deep for him though. He just kinda came out with it, asking me if he could talk to me....And yes, Facebook is the devil.
    i read your other thread about it. did he really just get married, or been married a while? he sounds like he's gotten himself in too deep and is looking for a way out. what a bad boy! it's like he's totally willing to cheat with you. i guess he's still a playa, eh? his wife shoulda known better.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thescientist View Post
    No, I have not confronted him. If you read from pages 13 and on, you will see my reason for it. i debate it in my head all the time, but the consensus seems to not confront at this point. If you have anything to add you can post over there. I've gotten mixed suggestions.
    I mean, I want to confront this guy myself!! Seriously, I always give people the benefit of the doubt, believing most people are good, loving, and caring. I've rarely been let down. How old is this guy?

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    Quote Originally Posted by EnFpFer View Post
    I mean, I want to confront this guy myself!! Seriously, I always give people the benefit of the doubt, believing most people are good, loving, and caring. I've rarely been let down. How old is this guy?
    He's 25.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aphrodite-gone-awry View Post
    i read your other thread about it. did he really just get married, or been married a while? he sounds like he's gotten himself in too deep and is looking for a way out. what a bad boy! it's like he's totally willing to cheat with you. i guess he's still a playa, eh? his wife shoulda known better.
    Been married for a couple of years. Well here's the thing. He did used to tell me he loved me, but it was in such a way that made me give him the skeptics eyebrow. I'm thinking he was intentionally being ambiguous about it. He'd say "I love you" playfully, flirtatiously back then, but he said recently that he was never really able to "man up" about how he was really feeling.

    I hope he wouldn't cheat on his wife, but I wouldn't put it past him. She's an ISFJ, real sweet girl from what I've seen, but it seems like he may have picked her because he assumes she is no threat to him in anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EnFpFer View Post
    I mean, I want to confront this guy myself!! Seriously, I always give people the benefit of the doubt, believing most people are good, loving, and caring. I've rarely been let down. How old is this guy?
    oh come on! he sounds like a selfish, immature dick who wants to get a zing wherever he can. what's so hard to believe about that? we may be perfect people, but we don't live in a perfect world.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EnFpFer View Post
    Been married for a couple of years. Well here's the thing. He did used to tell me he loved me, but it was in such a way that made me give him the skeptics eyebrow. I'm thinking he was intentionally being ambiguous about it. He'd say "I love you" playfully, flirtatiously back then, but he said recently that he was never really able to "man up" about how he was really feeling.

    I hope he wouldn't cheat on his wife, but I wouldn't put it past him. She's an ISFJ, real sweet girl from what I've seen, but it seems like he may have picked her because he assumes she is no threat to him in anyway.
    see? just another way flirting misses the mark and causes problems.
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    Quote Originally Posted by aphrodite-gone-awry View Post
    oh come on! he sounds like a selfish, immature dick who wants to get a zing wherever he can. what's so hard to believe about that? we may be perfect people, but we don't live in a perfect world.
    He sounds like that, but I like to get all the info before deciding against another person. That being said, if I've already decided someone is a jackass, and if his behavior was proving toxic to my heart or mind, I'd just stay away and tell him directly that I'd prefer he not engage me ever again.
    Again, I like to have all the details(from the horse) before I get all drastic. That's just me. But I wouldn't allow a toxic, manipulative, hateful human to use me for entertainment while I silently suffered.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EnFpFer View Post
    He sounds like that, but I like to get all the info before deciding against another person. That being said, if I've already decided someone is a jackass, and if his behavior was proving toxic to my heart or mind, I'd just stay away and tell him directly that I'd prefer he not engage me ever again.
    Again, I like to have all the details(from the horse) before I get all drastic. That's just me. But I wouldn't allow a toxic, manipulative, hateful human to use me for entertainment while I silently suffered.
    that is very logical and makes good sense. but it doesn't work that way for all of us. if i am slowly cajoled in by wily foxey (flirty) moves, Ni/Fe/Te? enables me to see things with rose-colored glasses. to see someone behind their dicky behavior and forgive them for it. to give them the benefit of the doubt, usually too many times.

    sometimes you are the one used. sometimes you use, inadvertently. it's not always clear cut.
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    Quote Originally Posted by aphrodite-gone-awry View Post
    that is very logical and makes good sense. but it doesn't work that way for all of us. if i am slowly cajoled in by wily foxey (flirty) moves, Ni/Fe/Te? enables me to see things with rose-colored glasses. to see someone behind their dicky behavior and forgive them for it. to give them the benefit of the doubt, usually too many times.

    sometimes you are the one used. sometimes you use, inadvertently. it's not always clear cut.
    So if you were to confront this guy, being in the position of the op, would you see it as being at the risk of being further manipulated?

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    Quote Originally Posted by EnFpFer View Post
    So if you were to confront this guy, being in the position of the op, would you see it as being at the risk of being further manipulated?
    i wouldn't confront. it's just not what i do. i give every benefit of every doubt, then accept reality illustrated by actions, long after i really should have moved on. why confront? you just allow further opportunities for lies or deception, with words.
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