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    Quote Originally Posted by SillySapienne View Post
    The kind of flirtation that I would take seriously, however, is when a guy shows interest in you by listening and responding to what you're saying.
    I would recognize a guy who just wants to go to bed with me, if friendship wasn't present. That doesn't interest me. But he does what you describe as well. We're friends. This is in part why I've taken this seriously. He listens intently to what I say and remembers it (I'm the same with him)...We've had some deep, interesting conversations and sometimes bounce around on a lot of topics, not wanting to stop talking to one another. Just generally like each other very much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren View Post
    He does that too. This is in part why I've taken this seriously. He listens intently to what I say and remembers it weeks later (I'm the same with him)...We've had some deep, interesting conversations and sometimes bounce around on a lot of topics, not wanting to stop talking to one another. Just generally like each other very much. The touching didn't start (but close body space did) until we had known one another for months and recognized we had personal chemistry.
    Sounds good.



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    Quote Originally Posted by SillySapienne View Post
    Sounds good.



    So, is this male suitor an ENFP?
    My feeling is that he's a more extroverted INFP, but he could be a quieter ENFP. I'm on the fence about that.

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    Such an unbelievably familiar story.
    I know it's wrong, and I've worked on it so very much.
    I've become rather homely in an attempt to keep my naturally flirtatiousness down.
    I'm glad I had motivation to work on my faults.
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    I was more flirtatious when I was younger. Actually, I was once a professional flirt. However, I do not flirt heavily with other people if I'm in a relationship, because my Fi won't stand for that, I think it's wrong. I also think that leading people on is wrong. If I flirt heavily with someone, that means that I specifically like them and have interest in that individual. In my mind there is a distinct difference between being mildly flirtatious (which I am) and showing interest. I like to think that it's obvious to other people whether I'm just being playful or I'm actually interested. I like to think, because I come off as more intense when I like someone. At this point in my life, the idea of leading someone on makes me feel sad . I wouldn't do it intentionally. If I go out of my way on a regular basis to flirt with a particular guy, it's a pretty safe bet that I do like him and have real interest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Waffle View Post
    Such an unbelievably familiar story.
    I know it's wrong, and I've worked on it so very much.
    I've become rather homely in an attempt to keep my naturally flirtatiousness down.
    I'm glad I had motivation to work on my faults.
    I like your mother Sounds a bit like mine.

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    I'm just gonna go ahead and admit that I like it when I'm seen as attractive. But I allow those perceptions to be developed on their own.

    Thus, I don't manipulate situations to try to see whether someone sees me that way, such as sending false flirtatious signals just to get a response out of them. And this is why:

    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren View Post
    but I would say that for me, if a playful flirtatious person gets extra flirtatious, that's a definite sign...I take that to mean that the person is seriously looking to take things further.
    The last thing I would want to do is lead someone on just to stroke my own ego; if I weren't interested in taking things further, I'd stop it before I ever communicated that message.


    I 'skipped' the period of my social life where I was supposed to be flirtatious; when I finally got into it, I got sick of it pretty readily. I think I'd outgrown it before I ever experienced it.

    That said, I can still relate to the sense of validation that the ENFP in the OP craves, as well as the desire to overcome it. It comes in other forms for me, such as needing approval at work and so on.

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    I'm a master flirt!
    Whenever I'm at a bar, I'm never shy to ask the cute guy to my left... 'what's the matter, shrimpy?'
    But then again... it's all in good fun, and my flirting is 'mixed' with friendliness. I treat people like that, because it's in my nature, and because I'm a 19 years old girl that isn't taken or married... I might as well enjoy singletown hehehe

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    Am I the only person who never wants to flirt? I totaly hate flirting. I can't help it, but whenever someone tries to flirt with me, it ruins my day. Don't ask me why, it's just the way it is. Sometimes people tell me that I'm flirting and flirtatious, but I don't take it as a compliment. It embarrasses me when I hear that. I wish there was some pill that could cure this strange thing in my mind.
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    i cant seperate friendly flirting from honest affectionate flirting from enfp's. -__- bumms me out.
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