I think playful is the perfect word. That would explain why I didn't understand when people thought I was flirting and I was just being nice. Also, many people just want to believe that if you smile at them you are flirting with them. I smile at everyone.
It would also explain why ENFPs seem to flirt regardless of gender. It can just be a playful thing but people take it as flirting. Don't get me wrong, we can be flirts, too. It's just that the belief that we are always flirting is flawed.
I think I do the playful thing a lot-like a puppy. But it has no sexual vibes at all. I dont even understand how to flirt in a provocative way. I once told an ENTP friend I was a man (in the context of back waxing conversations) and he said "Ah-that would explain a lot" as he had been hitting on me for awhile and I didnt get it. I dont even understand when boys are interested in me. I just dont see it.
Originally Posted by INTP
You do it like this:
Hi mr.x i am not intrested about you in eny romantic way, i just wanted to hang out with you as a friend.
There is nothing rude about saying it straight, its rude not to say it like that. Sorry to let you know that you cant say that in this situation without hurting his feelings. Saying it straight like this you will hurt him the least and you will be least rude. If you do the magical enfp dissapearing trick you will hurt him more(maybe really really much more), but your just not there to see it. Not to mention how rude it is to dissapear without explaining yourself.
+1 I wish everyone in life was this direct and honest.