Ok, I am your typical-ass INFJ in that I THINK about things rather than taking action WAAAAAY too much.
Here's the thing (this may have something to do with those Ni/Fe letter thingies, but I am not educated on those), back in Sept 2008 my husband cheated and left. I was a broken zombie for about a week or so, but then it was like BOOM, I just got up and DID THINGS. Maybe survival instinct due to trauma, but it was like I transformed into a different person for about 3-4 months.
It was like 'fear' ceased to have meaning and 'hesitation' even less. I just jumped into everything; social groups, every job I saw in the paper I applied for, taking long walks in areas I'd never visited before, starting conversations with complete strangers, and much, much more. I was in so much pain obviously, but the upside to that was it was like suddenly I had these super powers to stop second guessing myself and discern what I needed to do without my usual 'thinking session' beforehand.
I admit fully that this tendency to overthink is a hindrance, I repeatedly fail to take more action because I've thought myself into the paranoia and uncertainty. I get tired of it more than those around me do (I just don't think they realize it! lol).
It sounds nutty, but as horrible as those first few months were, I actually MISS them in some ways because now it's almost a year later and I'm finding I'm pretty much back to my overthinking self. It's more excruciating than ever because now I've seen how much I can get done when I'm not thinking so much. Rationally I KNOW just DOING will work out better for me. I'm better at it than ever before, but damn I still think myself into paralysis/aloofness way too much. Old habits die hard, I tell ya.
Any of you fellow NFs conquered the whole "Doing-VS-Thinking" battle? What techniques did you employ to re-wire yourself to DO rather than fall back on the overthinking?
I just don't want to wake up in ten years like the rest of my family. They are definitely the thinking types who have missed out on EVERYTHING just to avoid those potentially hurtful situations. Like, they've spared themselves pain that can result from taking risks but they've also spared themselves the happiness too. I don't want that to be me!!!!