My two best friends are INFP and INTP and most of the time I love them but yes sometimes I get in the 'They aren't there for me mode'. Usually when I'm already feeling down and esp with my INFP if I don't contact her I might as well not expect anything most of the time. Although we have both improved over the years (me at not having as high expectations, her at making contact.)
Because I am always thinking of the people in my life (like letting them know when there's something on tv they might like during the week, or letting them know about something in a shop etc, little things) I do get miffed when the feeling (that I might have blown way out of proportion<---somewhat embarrassingly admits) and thoughtfulness is not returned even by those who are closest to me. Like oh yeah that did happen/that was on/I didn't invite you. Inside my head: But - but - I would always think of you! I would never forget you....you forgot about me?
I'm guessing it is even more annoying/take it as proof that the other party is uninterrrested for E_FJs. In saying that, my best friends are great - I too need to find me a fellow NFJ friend me thinks to fill in the gaps But not put like that!