1. Define love in your own words.
"The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth." M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled, pg. 81 ---The key word is 'will' and don't get hung up on 'spiritual' - his implications here are for the growth of the part of the human that is understood through psychology.
2. What does love feel like for you?
home, belonging, connection, mutual respect and admiration, constancy, loyalty, trust
3. How do you prefer to receive love?
Romantically? Quality time and physical touch
Other? However the other person is able to give it that isn't abusive.
4. How do you show your love? Is expressing it easy or difficult? Are you effusive or reserved?
With someone I care for and know fairly well it is easy - easy to give hugs, to say 'I love you.' to put out the effort to do the things I know will please them. I can be effusive if I know that is what the other person needs - but effusive is too strong a word for my normal mode of operation. Being willing to listen.
5. How many people do you TRULY love?
Romantically? 1 and he's dead.
As family/friend? There are many I care deeply for.
6. How long does it take for you to truly love someone? It can take time or only a moment - there are too many variables for it to be otherwise.
7. What causes you to love someone? I don't always know until I feel some of what is listed in #2.
8. Have you experienced unrequited love? If so, describe your feelings about it.
Romantically? Only in my head - that INFP tendency to idolize someone without ever knowing them or speaking to them, thereby creating a totally fictional person - a 'what if' world.
9. Are your feelings towards people consistent, or do you fluctuate between love and hate?
My feelings fluctuate all the time - not necessarily between love and hate. My definition of love implies a level of choice - I choose to love others even when there are times my feelings are hurt by them. I love(d) my husband even when I was angry at him. This definition also implies a difference between love and like. I can love someone but not necessarily like them
10. Is it difficult for you to love people? Do you guard yourself, or are you open?
I find it relatively easy to love others, but I work to guard myself for I cannot do or be everything. I find I cannot invest the time and effort required of a good relationship with more than one person at a time mate-wise.