Playing devil's advocate is almost intrinsic to me. And so is joking and brainstorming. As an example, I could see myself using the phrase "bros before hoes" in a variety of scenarios. I'd probably do it to piss off some girl (just to tease, not to attack) I was having a conversation with. I'd explain why I "thought" so... All the while...deep within, I don't agree with that phrase one bit. But, wait....maybe I do just a little bit in some cases.... :confused: I'll question myself all the time...my beliefs...my values..."the truth"...I'll see both sides of the equation. I refrain from dealing in absolutes. In good P fashion...it's all relative and dependent on context.
Some people get the idea that I'm this coldish, rock-solid, ultra logical/analytical snarky guy. I'm a sensitive guy in touch with his feelings. So which version is true? I think we all cultivate personas to a certain degree but that they don't always come out as forced. I'm comfortable being jerkish sometimes, when all I want is hippie utopia It's an exaggeration...it's sarcasm...it's teasing...it's being ambiguous...*sigh*...it's complex.
But it's not due to some trauma. Even though, yes I've encountered situations when I was younger were being instinctually loving and caring didn't quite work out for me. I remember this episode... wanting to punch this other kid in the face, and having every reason for doing so (also he was trying to kick my ass himself and he had started it) but couldn't because I didn't want to hurt him. I remember being really angry at myself too for not being able to do it like all the other kids. I mean I had the skill and physique to pull it off...I just cared for my enemy too much I guess.
I think it's normal for an ENFP male to adapt to the real world as he begins to understand not everyone thinks like he does. But we are what we do...so it's not just some big lie. We learn from the outer world and we evolve.
As far as overconfidence goes...I think confidence is one of those traits that are better improved by faking it in the initial stages. I think most people can agree with that. So maybe the macho attitude helps him somewhat. What is important is that he feels accepted and gets that you get that he cares for you regardless.