Results 1 to 7 of 7
08-08-2009, 01:53 AM #1GlycerineGuest
ENFJs, how do you react under extreme stress?
08-08-2009, 02:02 AM #2
I have a short temper and I say things without thinking.ENFJ 3W4
If you read this I am sorry to say that you just lost 5 seconds of your life that you wont be getting back.*
*Actual time may vary.
08-08-2009, 03:02 AM #3
I find I go into a critical planning mode and enter an extreme realm of focus. If you are referring to the breakdown that occurs if this fails then I would say that I attempt to sever ties with whatever is causing me this stress and re-evaluate the direction I'm heading in.
Stress for me is something to overcome and if it grows big enough that it isn't able to be handled in a sane fashion then I attempt to remove it completely from me.
You can usually tell I'm under stress when I'm a lot less talkative and very focused on something else. I also feel like my Fe goes into overdrive during this stage and a feel every ripple as if it were a tidal wave."That's the thing about girls. Every time they do something pretty, even if they're not much to look at, or even if they're sort of stupid, you fall half in love with them, and then you never know where the hell you are. Girls. Jesus Christ. They can drive you crazy. They really can."
08-08-2009, 05:33 AM #4
I first go into that extreme realm of focus like SpottingTrains said...then I evaluate the situation to figure out where the stress is coming from..is it from outside of me and it's the way I'm handling it that's causing the stress or is it the situation/person that is causing me the stress. If it's me I attempt to do all the strategies I've built up over the years for handling stress...if it's a situation or another person I see what I can do about eliminating the stress/stressor from my life (if that's possible)
I do become a lot less talkative and use that energy to focus on how I'm feeling or how the stress is making me feel.
I really work on understanding that "this too shall pass" cause it can tend to overwhelm..and while beauty and joy I don't mind drowning in....stress waves washing over me are harmful and unpleasant...I swim in that ocean as little as possible.for my life is slowed up by thought and the need to understand what I am living.
08-26-2009, 10:13 PM #5
- Join Date
- Aug 2009
- 2, 9
Generally, when under extreme stress I appear calm, but a dab of pee is dribbling down my leg (sshh don't tell anyone..). It's a great trick.
If someone has made me angry to cause the stress, I may revert to terrible two's: say horrible things, throw myself on the groud, scream for my favorite toy, and then frantically apologize for my behavior 5 minutes later. Ha
08-27-2009, 12:49 PM #6
- Join Date
- Oct 2008
Either 'lost mode' where I get extremely scared and unsure or 'dark mode' which is not as bad as it used to be. When I was a kid it was like a tantrum, but now it's usually one act of aggression like a slammed door or yell a phrase then I catch myself and then just stew for about a minute, then it's over. Not bad for self-control.
08-27-2009, 12:53 PM #7
Whatever is causing me severe distress MUST be isolated. That part is non-negotiable. I have to throw it into what amounts to a lead-lined box before it blows up the ship. Then from that point, I can make a determination about what to do with it or if anything *can* be done.
You can usually tell I'm under stress when I'm a lot less talkative and very focused on something else.
I also feel like my Fe goes into overdrive during this stage and a feel every ripple as if it were a tidal wave.eNFJ 4w3 sx/so 468 tritype
EII-Fi subtype, Ethical/Empath, Delta/Beta
AIS Holland code
By mystory in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)Replies: 11Last Post: 05-24-2011, 09:25 PM
By Yloh in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)Replies: 9Last Post: 06-14-2010, 07:54 PM
By labyrinthine in forum The SP Arthouse (ESFP, ISFP, ESTP, ISTP)Replies: 54Last Post: 02-01-2010, 08:34 AM
By Cenomite in forum The BonfireReplies: 21Last Post: 01-23-2009, 06:13 PM
By Dali in forum The SP Arthouse (ESFP, ISFP, ESTP, ISTP)Replies: 59Last Post: 10-31-2008, 01:37 PM