triangular theory of love. passion, intimacy, and commitment.
passion = magnetic force of attraction. it makes you want this person so much you forget about others. singular sight line, specificity of vision.
what makes this happen for infjs? my theory before was that Fi was what i needed more than anything to feed me. it is obvious for me now that dominant iNtuitives communicate more easily with each other. information is more easily expressed. this helps generate thought but, at times, can also catalyze feeling.
i still feel that Fi is what fuels me. it is what makes me come out of my Self to extrovert with Fe. it motivates my desire to communicate and connect with others. it is what i want to free everywhere, express, articulate, capture in a bottle.
Ti is important to me and i enjoy connecting with T to shore up my logical defenses and strategization. but i don't love it.
i love N ideas, they inspire me, get me enthused and excited, get me to speak up and share what i've gathered for the group. but i love what they do for human beings, the ways in which they help them understand themselves, connect them with each other, get them in touch with their potential, their senses of self, etc.
i care about and feel compassion for others intermittently in an easy come easy go kind of way. but this question of passion is about being in-touch with one's own individual needs, knowing what matters most to you, your deepest desires, the chemical compounds you need from others to thrive, etc. i feel out-of-touch with what should be such a simple question.