At this point in my life, I'm actually thinking another INFP would be best for me. I think each type has it's own language, but I think INFP can be especially difficult to learn... (Maybe I'm just flattering myself.)
I almost suspect that xNTJ - INFP would actually be better with the INFP being male.
I don't really know, though. This is just all theorizing on my part.
Have you met NTJ women!?!?! I'm sure it could work in some cases, but I'd imagine it wouldn't work in FAR more. Maybe I just met a lot of not-compatible women??? Recalling those memories still makes me want to vomit though...
That's harsh I know, but it is my experience. I hope its not other peoples experience too.