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    Default Understanding your weaknesses

    Why do people constantly deny their weaknesses? If one can truly understand where a weakness lies, energy can be accurately directed at the source to alleviate it. No one should be afraid to admit ineptitude, for this is the first step in growth and strength. The second, action.

    I'm not really sure how to direct a discussion regarding this...I suppose it was more of a pit stop on a meandering thought trail. Despite direction, I would fancy other opinions
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    It's a painful process and most people would rather not face it. When I engage in that process, it's just very hard to swallow.

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    Do you mean generally or in the context of the forum?

    How do they constantly deny it?

    The flip side is people who revel in a weakness as a point of pride.
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    That's one reason I came to MBTI- to learn my natural weaknesses, and recognize them so that I'm aware of them and can work to correct them. I also am not afraid to share them with those I am closest to, so they can leave me alone about why I'm not so touchy feely.

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    Denial of personal weaknesses is something I never understand. But it's probably because I can't relate, NFs being ridiculously self-aware.

    Recognizing your weaknesses and growing from there should be in everyone's top five things to do, and yet, it rarely is.

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    Its one thing to recognize, but another to fight it. Our weakness drives us to feel inadequate in life. If we fight our true weakness non stop it could drive us into depresion or a feeling of not being able to adequate to handle lifes problems. If your grip was weak would you test it hanging from a rope 10 ft of the ground? Or would you test it by grabbing the rope and just lifting your feet of the ground. The other thing is does testing it really strengthen it or just beat failure into your head. Is there other ways to go about strengthening it other than submiting yourself to something your gonna fail.

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    Most folks really want to believe they are good people/well-balanced/healthy and all of those things. Confronting reality (not to mention accepting it) is difficult for many people as it is hard to really be objective about yourself. Most peoples measuring sticks are their intentions rather than their actions. One of the easiest ways to see this is when people take the MBTI. They will tend to score themselves higher in the traits that they admire/aspire to be. I say this knowing full well that I am included in this . Telling people 'you know you say you are this but your posting shows this more' never really works. It doesn't work IRL either when talking to people about their weaknesses even the ones you have relationships with...not excluding deep long term ones. However letting people know what it is you observe can sometimes open the door and let them start thinking about it themselves. Until someone truly arrives at such conclusions themselves it's unlikely change will be in the works for them. For example I really wanted to be ENFP for quite some time. I didn't want to believe I was a total J and all of the negative views that can be associated with that (rigidity, opinionated etd.). I wanted to be fun, soulful and playful only! Accepting that I'm all of those things only a small part of the time was hard for me. I think most people forget about the action and growth part. Avoiding growing pains is pretty natural I've come to believe. Avoiding discomfort in general seems to be the norm. Pushing those usually self-imposed boundaries and stepping out of comfort zones usually sucks for awhile. I like the feeling of freedom that comes from it though as their tends to be some underlying fear that comes with facing your weaknesses. I have tons of weaknesses so its a life long process and one that is never going to be finished.
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    Some folks do not seek to identify their weaknesses because they have ZERO self awareness.

    Some ID their weaknesses when they manifest as a huge calamity in their lives (Gambling, alocoholism, etc.)

    It's one thing to find out what your weaknesses are.

    It's quite another to systematically: (1) prioritize them in order of severity that they should be corrected/improved/mitigated/etc., and (2) identify methods of improving such said weaknesses, and (3) formulating a plan to work on these things while moving forward.

    Self improvement does not happen overnight. It must be a quest started from within a person for it to yield fruit.

    I'm in the process of trying to become better able to use "feelings" to guide me in my life. Give me a blank card to write to my Mother on her birthday and I will fill it with loving prose. Ask he how I feel at any moment in time and the answer will be "Great!" or "Outstanding!", but if I am asked to make a decision on something based on how I feel about it...I'm dead in the water.

    I hear this is common for those with strong thinking preferences. So here I am.

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    Me and my weakness are drinking buddies, I talk to him every weekend while intoxicated.

    But on the serious side people don't face their weakness because failure taste bitter and your body has a habit of telling you to "flee". They rather hide from it till the moment they have no choice but to face it.

    Like the above poster, part of the reason i learned about MBTI was to get educated about who I am. It was a bit of a shocker when i first read my personality type for the first time, the accuracy was uncanny and it described me(minor detail here and there, but the general idea was intact). I was hesitant to put any label on myself,but with more research i finally excepted the general theory.

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    Quote Originally Posted by forzen View Post
    Me and my weakness are drinking buddies, I talk to him every weekend while intoxicated.

    But on the serious side people don't face their weakness because failure taste bitter and your body has a habit of telling you to "flee". They rather hide from it till the moment they have no choice but to face it.

    Like the above poster, part of the reason i learned about MBTI was to get educated about who I am. It was a bit of a shocker when i first read my personality type for the first time, the accuracy was uncanny and it described me(minor detail here and there, but the general idea was intact). I was hesitant to put any label on myself,but with more research i finally excepted the general theory.
    Its not always forced though. There are 2 options. Is it driven by greed to get what you really want or is it driven because your forced to face it? One is a choice the other is not. If it is driven by greed it goes through the thought process of is it worth it. If its worth it you will choose to face your fears and fight your weakness.

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