I'm just getting over a divorce, and I'm not at the point of dating yet but I'm at the point I'm THINKING about it. I was with my ex for a little over four years, and I don't know his type but I'm pretty sure it was ISTJ or ISTP.
We got along on so many levels, I think I was attracted to his quietness, his vast reserves of knowledge, and wit but in the end he was rather an 'emotional vampire'. It was sort of like he couldn't feel for himself so he felt 'through' me, that sort of thing. He was also not assertive, and passed responsibility off on to others (whether it was me or his family/friends) instead of being able to own his own responsibility for himself.
Not sure if that has anything to do with his type at all, but since I've been getting into all the MBTI stuff, I've had a couple of guys I know do the intake and they've both come back as ESFP.
I find them very attractive. I have another friend I've known for over ten years who is an ESTP, we never did the romance but I definitely had a thing for him back in the day. Upon thinking about it, over the years I've felt way more attracted to louder, spontaneous, go-getter types but I suppose I've felt like I'd make them nuts with all my intense thinking and need for alone time even though I consider myself an animated and enthusiastic person (especially with new adventures!).Still, in my relationship with my ex who was more like me, I felt dragged down, and felt I had to be the one to make everything 'happen' or I would get blamed when nothing happened, if that makes sense.
I'm wondering now if someone more like an EP might be a better fit for me? I suppose I'm asking if any of you fellow NFs have relationships with EP types, and wondering how it works for you?