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    "Everything in its place" fill's Avatar
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    Cool Can Two NFs Hold a Straight Conversation?

    I've noticed when talking to NF friends in real life that we can't keep our minds on one subject. If one of us tries to tell a story, we sidetrack constantly throughout telling it, and its telling is frequently paused then resumed.

    This happens especially with my ENFP friend, not only in conversation, but in goals and plans. We'll constantly switch between things to do, and it ends up in us not getting anything done at all, hah.

    This probably isn't just an NF thing, but has anyone had similar experiences?
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    I have an ENFP friend. If we're both really interested in a paticular topic, we can keep talking about it for hours. If a relevant side story pops up, we'll tell it, but we're always able to go back to the main subject.

    I have another ENFP friend with who it could go both ways. If we're talking about something serious, we can continue the conversation. If it's just a fun conversation, we jump all over the place.

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    Who is interested in rehashing the same topic over and over again in the same conversation? Dull people, that's who. Part of how conversations work is that the subject naturally shifts over the course of the conversation. If the subject doesn't shift you are officially really boring.
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    Oh me and another enfp can go totally crazy and I can end up really tired.

    This works better if I become more thinker like-I naturally tend to do this. The stronger the feeler, the less I use feelings to interact??

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    Sounds like typical Ne to me. xNTPs do it too, just usually more on informational topics and fields of interest / random trivia.
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    I've never tried to have a straight conversation.... cause... it's not very fun.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fill View Post
    I've noticed when talking to NF friends in real life that we can't keep our minds on one subject. If one of us tries to tell a story, we sidetrack constantly throughout telling it, and its telling is frequently paused then resumed.

    This happens especially with my ENFP friend, not only in conversation, but in goals and plans. We'll constantly switch between things to do, and it ends up in us not getting anything done at all, hah.

    This probably isn't just an NF thing, but has anyone had similar experiences?
    Yes fill, often. It's how N attempts to find connection... Ne dom naturally wanders all over the place because to Ne, they're all one big related topic. But for Ni dominant INFJ, problem stems from I think Ni on full throttle being too much for tert Ti. It's difficult to organize your thoughts and what you say in a systematical logical fashion because N by nature organize things by multiple relationship links... like a mind web. Sometimes it feels like I'm attempt to wangle all the connections down to a single straightish path... on the fly. Like an instantaneous decision on which of 3/4/5 etc route is the best for reaching where I want to go. Meanwhile Ni has already skip down two intersections. Then I realize I'm likely not making any sense and must loop back.
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    LOL, somewhat. If it's an important enough topic, we'll keep coming back to it as we meander.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fill View Post
    This happens especially with my ENFP friend, not only in conversation, but in goals and plans.
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    My best friend is an INFP also,
    we have regular convos, but we always get sidetracked on minor things we say that people usually don't pay attention to, and we totally lose track of what we were previously saying.

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