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    Default ENFJs and feeling appreciated

    ENFJs, what makes you feel appreciated? What would be a good way to show an ENFJ you appreciate him/her?

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    Tell them you appreciate them. Be straight forward. This seems to work best in my experience.

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    Cookies. They seem to love cookies. Oh and telling them straight out that you appreciate them and why. Give them lots of hugs and kisses (be sure to set aside hours if you're planning to appreciate with kisses). Show that you're happy. They really thrive on that.
    I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.

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    Hmmm...How about a less straight forward way? Any suggestions?

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    Spend quality time with the person and have fun? Show interest in what they care about. Just like anyone else, they want to be understood and accepted.

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    Lets hang out sometime. Bring the jetpack.

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    Well my brother is an ENFJ. He always wants company around (even when we were little and used to hate each other's guts, he still always wanted me to be to be there, which I never understood at the time), so hanging out, talking with him, and doing activities he likes with him is always appreciated on his part, especially since he knows I'm all introverted and whatnot. He also likes to tell me lengthy stories about current issues he's having with people, and he likes feedback and advice to show that you're listening and care about how he's feeling (Aw, I remember when we were little, I would pretend to nod off and fall asleep in the middle of whatever it was he was saying... And while it was obvious he wasn't too thrilled about this, he'd continue to tell me whatever it was he was saying...). And who doesn't like compliments on one's talents? Por ejemplo, my brother just started teaching himself the guitar not too long ago and never has had any voice lessons, but managed to compose a pretty good song through a video and uploaded it on Facebook. I later told him that I liked his video, and I therefore sent the video to all of my friends, and afterwards read him all of the compliments everyone gave him. That put a smile on his face. Aw, ain't that sweet?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eris View Post
    (Aw, I remember when we were little, I would pretend to nod off and fall asleep in the middle of whatever it was he was saying... And while it was obvious he wasn't too thrilled about this, he'd continue to tell me whatever it was he was saying...). And who doesn't like compliments on one's talents?
    Good thing your brother didn't say what he wanted to say spread across a hundred different threats. Did he try to make it easy on you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sytpg View Post
    Hmmm...How about a less straight forward way? Any suggestions?
    Emails, offline messages, text, strip-o-gram? What is it you need to appreciate and why can't you be straightforward about it?
    I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.

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    sy...it might help if you clarified the nature of the relationship.
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