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    Default Have INFPs identity issues?

    In my thought being an intp or infp, I would like to know if it is common for an INFP having identity issues, and if it could be due to turbolent feelings that can make difficult a path for self-discovery. A sort of: "I can act only if I know really who I am".
    I always change my mind about who I am and who I want become. One day I think I like a career and another day I would like another career who is the opposite. And so on... So I am constantly self-absorbed, self-doubt and mild depressed.
    Any INFP can relate to this in some way, or I am on the wrong side?
    Thank you.

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    How old are you? That matters I think...Because if you are a teenager this:

    I always change my mind about who I am and who I want become. One day I think I like a career and another day I would like another career who is the opposite. And so on... So I am constantly self-absorbed, self-doubt and mild depressed.
    Is maybe just growing pains?

    If you're older, then yeah you might be INFP.

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    It's pretty stereotypically INFP, and I admit, I fall into it myself at times
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    Quote Originally Posted by heart View Post
    How old are you? That matters I think...Because if you are a teenager this:

    Is maybe just growing pains?

    If you're older, then yeah you might be INFP.
    I am not a teenager since a lot of years.
    The truth is that when I was a teenager my life was not very difficult.
    I remember those years in a nostalgic way.
    I liked school, I had good parents and a circle of friends.
    But when I've had growing up, choose a path, a meaning in my life, around 20 I started feel pain, doubt and so on. I think I am wasting a lot of years...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Malcontent View Post
    In my thought being an intp or infp, I would like to know if it is common for an INFP having identity issues, and if it could be due to turbolent feelings that can make difficult a path for self-discovery. A sort of: "I can act only if I know really who I am".
    I always change my mind about who I am and who I want become. One day I think I like a career and another day I would like another career who is the opposite. And so on... So I am constantly self-absorbed, self-doubt and mild depressed.
    Any INFP can relate to this in some way, or I am on the wrong side?
    Thank you.
    I am like this to the extreme. It is difficult always being full of indecision and confusion. I'm working on it though...

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    Yep, I relate.

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    I relate definitely. But I'm a teenager, so some of it might be influenced by growing pains! :P

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    Well, at first I didn't want to choose anything definite; I just wanted to live and explore my options. I had a really interesting time in very early twenties. It was as I began to approach thirty that I actually became *concerned* about what to be "when I grow up." I've got a vague idea, but I'm not totally sure. I do know what I don't want.

    However, I know an INTP with advanced degrees who is not thrilled with his career options now that he has his PhD. So I'm not sure INFPs own this. I know an ISFP who knows exactly who he is, but has no clue what to do with it and has self-esteem issues with applying it to the "real world" of making money.

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    Sometimes I feel this feeling of emptiness in my beings... it's like maybe I'm just a flesh and blood.
    Flesh and blood...with needs

    I think experince something is really important to me. Because I really can't just tell who I am or what I want except when I am living it that I can just tell 'this is not what I am or I hate doing this'. I can't find the answer by just thinking about it. So I guess it might easier for infp to know what you don't like. On the
    other hand to know who you really are or what you want is another story! Also I can be
    trapped by fear of failure that make me freeze up and doing nothing which it is something
    I try to change about myself.

    Another issue that I always struggle with my identity is I'm sooooo perceptive of
    other people's feeling(my family to be exact) that leave me to more confusion. Because
    there's a part of me who wants to just live my life but there's another part who wants to
    please my parent by doing what's expect of me. I hateee disappointed them so... I end
    up doing things that's really not what I want. I still struggle with this til this day(I'm already 24) eventhough I start to become better at it. (times help...)

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    Malcontent,

    I agree completely - you express this quite eloquently. I am 49 and have still not found a cure for this, although my career has been quite stable. I desperately want to do something more personally meaningful, but that definition changes all the time. I don't feel that I can follow through on any coherent vision of who I want to become, and don't trust the evidence of a stable career and family life that I have arrived at an authentic expression of my self.

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