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    Senior Member seeker22's Avatar
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    Default Playing Hard To Get

    Turn On or Turn Off??

    Displayed By A Person You Like: Would this frustrate you to the point of giving up or interest you to the point of pursuit?

    Yourself: Have you ever employed this method? Did it work, or backfire?

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    Not a turn on or turn off. It's just annoying.

    But yeah, I've employed this method

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    Not a turn-off per se, but likely to discourage me from pursuing.

    I haven't intentionally used the tactic, but I've noticed that disinterest is a surprisingly effective aphrodisiac.

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    Absolutely fun in the beginning of the courtship. Have both used it and had it used on me. It allows for a nice game of tag. After that, it should slowely vanish, as it becomes exhausting.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JivinJeffJones View Post
    I haven't intentionally used the tactic, but I've noticed that disinterest is a surprisingly effective aphrodisiac.
    Yes, interesting how sometimes *indifference* can ignite others like moth to flame.

    Curious why that is. Wouldn't we want it to be "equal" or is that too *boring*?

    Or maybe some just like *the chase*... the *not knowing for certain*... the *maybe/maybe not*...

    Whereas some prefer the certainty of *yes we like each other and are dating.*

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    Absolutely fun in the beginning of the courtship. Have both used it and had it used on me. It allows for a nice game of tag. After that, it should slowely vanish, as it becomes exhausting.
    Great point. Yes, I do enjoy it as a PRELUDE or SEGUE... However I would not enjoy an entire relationship existence built on cat and mouse because yes - it would be exhausting - and also - seems to turn into more of a power/control struggle than anything...

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    Works on women, doesn't work on men.

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    ^LOL, yeah right
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    As an introverted female, I absolutely do not play "initiator" in the beginning... I'm a responder. Therefore playing hard to get just makes me lose interest.

    As for myself, I don't think I've ever intentionally tried to play hard to get.

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    Quote Originally Posted by seeker22 View Post
    Yes, interesting how sometimes *indifference* can ignite others like moth to flame.

    Curious why that is. Wouldn't we want it to be "equal" or is that too *boring*?

    Or maybe some just like *the chase*... the *not knowing for certain*... the *maybe/maybe not*...

    Whereas some prefer the certainty of *yes we like each other and are dating.*
    With the guys it works on I think it's the thrill of the hunt. They enjoy the challenge, or so they say. Plus there are some guys who would lose respect for a girl who "gave it up too easy".

    It's all a bit distasteful to me, but it seems to work depressingly often. *shrugs*
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