However, I did not understand a word of what you said in that last post. And I think it would be challenging for me, someone who says what she means, to have someone come and assume (or interpret, in your words) an entire scenario based on a few words. It's unnerving and disconcerting and I feel like I would have to walk on eggshells, lest words be put into my mouth. I'm sure it would be the same, in reverse, for the poor INFJ man who got stuck with me. I'm sure he's always be wondering what I *really* meant, even though I say what I really mean. Do you know what I mean?
I can't speak for what Synarch and Fidelia meant, but I personally can't be with a man who can't take a joke. Someone who is morose all the time - not to be confused with serious. They are not the same. I am always serious, but I am optimistic, cheerful and light hearted. Many people who are ill-tempered call themselves serious when they are really just whiny complainers. It seems like the NF men in general call themselves "serious" but really just have a propensity for whiny, complaining, morose and sullen temperaments that I personally can't have infecting my home and my brain. (of course, I don't mean this for *all* NF men, only unhealthy blah blah blah)
A good barometer: If I snap at you to shut up so I can think, would you cry or withdraw? If yes, keep on moving. If no, and you retort back with a comically insulting sentence letting me know that you didn't appreciate my tone but are not going to start a war about it, then we may have a chance. Especially if you add something about how it's impossible for me to think and chew gum at the same time. Something to make me laugh or to lighten the mood. Not everything needs to end in a big discussion about the state of our relationship. Because I say stupid shit all the time. I try to temper it, but in an intimate relationship, I may not always want to be censoring myself. If I can't just speak sometimes, then I won't speak ever.
If you can let things go when they are done, fine. If you harbor resentments, keep walking.
But about your post specifically: I need you to clarify what you meant by "extroverted mediocrity". Just for shits and giggles, really. I think I need to use this phrase more often but I want to know what it means first.
Thank you for being open and receptive to hearing what I have to say.