So I've been hanging out with an ENFP coworker and we've been on a few dates. On our third or fourth date we kissed (he initiated). After that we've kissed on a few other occassions at work/after work.
We see each other at work all the time since he sits in the same row as me.
It's been about 3 weeks since our last date. He stopped texting me and hasnt asked me out again. He continued flirting with me at work from time to time. Other times he completely ignored me. He definitely compliments me a lot less than he use to. Needless to say I was feeling a bit led on by his flirtatiousness at work. It has become clear to me that he lost interest which is unfortunate since we had such a great time on our dates. But now things are extremely awkward at work.
It's like I sense some animosity or bitterness from him. I'm trying to determine where it's coming from, or if I'm misjudging his actions. I've made many playfully sarcastic comments to him at work.
For instance, today I jokingly said something along the lines of "so I heard you were the LVP of the volley ball team, least valuable player". Then he bites back with an even more sarcastic and rude comment. But his sarcasm felt real, while mines was rather innocent. He basically said something along the lines of minding my own business and that he's having fun with the guys in the row at the moment. I just sensed the undertone was more than sarcasm.
Anyhow..I leave work with a simple 'nite. And he doesnt even look at me. Just stares at his screen and says 'good nite'. This is coming from someone who would walk me to my car every evening after work. I dont care if he no longer walks me to my car, but his unfriendly demeanor just hurts, especially because I feel like he led me on.
What is up with this ENFP? Could I have hurt his feelings?
I'd like to talk to him and let him know that the awkwardness was just bothering me and just be honest with him. I just like to be on good terms with everyone. I hate the vibe between us now. It's awful. I don't know....I'm not trying to woo him back, I just want things to be normal again...being friends is fine with me. He's just so much fun to be around.
ENFP's out there...what's your take on this? How should I deal with him? Will having a friendly talk with him just make things more awkward?
--A very confused and slightly hurt [gasp] INTJ.