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    Quote Originally Posted by the state i am in View Post
    for us left- brained j'ers the integration of the tertiary function supplies us with a healthy dose of the much needed right-brained in the moment big-picture general-flow not the hyper-focused zoomed-in-detail that makes j (introverted perceivers) often lose sight of what is important and get caught up in serious anxiety.
    This is an idea Ive heard many times before but never explained in quite this way. It's not that the tertiary function is an anchor, its that it somehow lessens the stakes. The theme of the last year for me has been learning to "live in the moment" (Se). Kind of a slippery thing to master, but has definitely been worth the process.

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    --UPDATE--

    Thanks to everyone for their insight.

    I returned to work today and everything went great. I didn't have 'the talk' with him. He was very amicable and flirty and just generally very nice to me so I didnt think it was necessary. It's almost like he needed the break from me. Maybe he was feeling suffocated? Who knows. Guess my vacation was perfect timing. I think he missed me around work. He asked me how long I was gone for and said that it felt like a really long time.

    I was friendly and nice, not overly so, but maybe just a tad flirtatious. I was jJust excited to tell him about my trip, and he was excited to hear about it. I avoided any stinging sarcasm. I realized a lot of my past sarcasm was in the presence of other male coworkers and it probably hurt his ego big time.

    Anyhow, we'll see how long this lasts. I don't think he's interested in pursuing anything serious which I'm totally fine with. At least the tension is not there and things seem to be back to normal...for today.

    I'm definitely learning how to better interact with with ENFP's.

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    Angry == Another Update ==

    So last week went great. All 3 days he was friendly and touchy feely and just his goofy self. VERY flirtatious, I'm sure innocently intended. He actually walked me to my car one day. Even went out to lunch with a group of coworkers in his car, granted he didn't invite me, another coworker did, but still we had a nice time. I've been careful about being sarcastic or saying anything to personally attack him.

    Monday I come in to work...wow, it's like a whole 'nother person! WTH? He didnt say a peep to me the entire day. But in general he was just more serious. He conversed with the other coworkers, but he didnt joke around with them as usual. He didn't turn the silly switch on AT ALL, which he normally would do a few times a day.

    I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt though, because I dont know if something happened during the weekend that's causing him to behave this way. My crazy brain is over-analyzing thinking that he's doing this again to send me a HINT to ensure that I'm not feeling led on after all the flirtation that ensued last week. Is this possible?

    When an ENFP doesnt turn on the silly switch at all for a day when they normally would, what does that usually mean?

    I guess we'll see what he's like tomorrow. Hope it's hot and NOT cold. I'd even accept room temperature...just be consistent!

    I'm hoping that logging my experience with this ENFP is helping someone out there understand them better.

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    well you're probably rigth about something happening during the weekend. As long as he is this way with everyone and not blatantly just with you, he's probably just having a bad day
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    Quote Originally Posted by thescientist View Post
    So last week went great. All 3 days he was friendly and touchy feely and just his goofy self. VERY flirtatious, I'm sure innocently intended. He actually walked me to my car one day. Even went out to lunch with a group of coworkers in his car, granted he didn't invite me, another coworker did, but still we had a nice time. I've been careful about being sarcastic or saying anything to personally attack him.

    Monday I come in to work...wow, it's like a whole 'nother person! WTH? He didnt say a peep to me the entire day. But in general he was just more serious. He conversed with the other coworkers, but he didnt joke around with them as usual. He didn't turn the silly switch on AT ALL, which he normally would do a few times a day.

    I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt though, because I dont know if something happened during the weekend that's causing him to behave this way. My crazy brain is over-analyzing thinking that he's doing this again to send me a HINT to ensure that I'm not feeling led on after all the flirtation that ensued last week. Is this possible?

    When an ENFP doesnt turn on the silly switch at all for a day when they normally would, what does that usually mean?

    I guess we'll see what he's like tomorrow. Hope it's hot and NOT cold. I'd even accept room temperature...just be consistent!

    I'm hoping that logging my experience with this ENFP is helping someone out there understand them better.
    Emotions can be very difficult to understand. It is obvious that you like this person and I wish you the best of luck in this potential relationship.

    You probably would not want my advice, however.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thescientist View Post
    So last week went great. All 3 days he was friendly and touchy feely and just his goofy self. VERY flirtatious, I'm sure innocently intended. He actually walked me to my car one day. Even went out to lunch with a group of coworkers in his car, granted he didn't invite me, another coworker did, but still we had a nice time. I've been careful about being sarcastic or saying anything to personally attack him.

    Monday I come in to work...wow, it's like a whole 'nother person! WTH? He didnt say a peep to me the entire day. But in general he was just more serious. He conversed with the other coworkers, but he didnt joke around with them as usual. He didn't turn the silly switch on AT ALL, which he normally would do a few times a day.

    I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt though, because I dont know if something happened during the weekend that's causing him to behave this way. My crazy brain is over-analyzing thinking that he's doing this again to send me a HINT to ensure that I'm not feeling led on after all the flirtation that ensued last week. Is this possible?

    When an ENFP doesnt turn on the silly switch at all for a day when they normally would, what does that usually mean?

    I guess we'll see what he's like tomorrow. Hope it's hot and NOT cold. I'd even accept room temperature...just be consistent!

    I'm hoping that logging my experience with this ENFP is helping someone out there understand them better.
    Those were once my exact thoughts.

    In conclusion, I found it was best not to take that personally. My ENFP defines the 'hot and cold' characteristic and the Ne-Fi combo takes him on drastic mood swings. One moment, he's having the best time of his life (to 'mask' his disturbance), the next.... he'll brood about an unfortunate morning incident with a colleague. His emotional world sometimes share a resemblance to a natural disaster. As long as this isn't affecting his judgment, I wouldn't over-analyze it. (I'd even go as far as to say, if he's comfortable sharing these concerns with you, that's a good sign of his trust.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by thescientist View Post
    I'm hoping that logging my experience with this ENFP is helping someone out there understand them better.

    Yeah it gives me another reason to find a NFJ over a NFP.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lasting_Pain View Post
    Emotions can be very difficult to understand. It is obvious that you like this person and I wish you the best of luck in this potential relationship.
    I do like him, I understand that he's not romantically interested. Physical attraction is there. Our dating was fun while it lasted. The only relationship I want to establish now is that of a friendship because I sincerely enjoy his company.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lasting_Pain View Post
    You probably would not want my advice, however.
    Why not?

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