Ditto to everything Lookin and Littlelostnf just said. I often feel the need to be a role model to others, and I feel like the responsibility is all on my shoulders. (I think the leadership thing is just inherent and instinctive for ENFJs.) But people have mistaken this -- and my outward confidence, whether I'm actually confident or not -- for being arrogant, and there is almost nothing I hate more than that; the feeling of being misread as stuck-up. But in almost every situation that requires a leader or role model, I feel the need to take charge, because the way my thought process goes, nobody else might take the responsibility.