My INFP friend is getting married and I'm very excited for her and I am one of her bridesmaids. In planning for her wedding, we asked her what type of bachelorette party she would like - wild or tame, etc. To the surprise of all the bridesmaids, she announced that she would like to take a weekend trip across the country. As much as we would all like to do this for her and with her, for some of us, it is simply not possible due to jobs constraints, financial constraints, family constraints, and etc. We all got together and came up with some lovely overnight ideas in cities nearer to our home city - including staying in a 5-star-hotel, shopping, dinner, spa time, and etc. For a couple of the bridesmaids, providing her with this much is a stretch, but we all agree that we want her to be happy.
However, when we explained to her that we could unfortunately not go with her on the long trip, and suggested the alternatives, she stopped talking to any of us. Trust me - we have been very careful to be sensitive and reassure her that we love her and want to do lots for her - we've offered her a shower at the time and in the city of her choosing, gone to her city to help her choose wedding things, and etc. Her fiancee is going on a long trip with his friends, which I suspect is adding pressure to her situation and making her feel like her friends don't care as much because we can't go with her. We've all tried to soothe her, but I'm kind of losing patience with this. Anyone have any advice about how to get her past this point? Anyone think we all owe her the longer trip? Your thoughts, please.