I am finding that sharing this sort of thing is actually appreciated. It builds trust. We (ENFJ's) are inaccurate in assuming that people don't want to help us like we help them.
I am realizing that for myself, I don't let people help me out of pride.
I want to think I am unique, or strong, or the best, or only one w/ the desire. That's the kind of realizations I am getting from letting people help me too- that's the real dark stuff, the stuff I like to avoid. The stuff about myself.
I think sometimes we (ENFJs) distract ourselves with others' problems so we don't have to face ourselves. So we can think we are great. This = making myself a martyr. It ends up being a disservice to everyone.