we're just slow and dumb. help him along. if you can not take offense to him acting like a weirdo sometimes, it will make matters much much easier. without knowing the details, i can't say for sure, but it sounds like he digs you. most infjs do not have this situation frequently occur. enfps are great. infjs love them. all dominant intuitives are great. your ability to not feel rejected can provide him with the confidence he needs to not second guess himself, not go into a shell, not feel like a fuckup. be as nurturing as you can be, and when you have your moments to let him know that you want to be closer to him, use your Ne to find a way to express it. show him what it is like to be open and honest (as opposed to scared, anxious, and untrusting). we need someone to let us out of our self-imposed cages, walk around and breathe in the fresh air. you two both recognize each other very wonderfully. that much is obvious but the details surrounding are what you can help to push/initiate setting him free. if you do, he will have extra care devoted to you. and you will be able to explore your connection in a more available and giving/generous way. when people give us gifts it opens us up and the harmony flows out into the world. we are so tightly constricted and guarded when we go thru stress but at times we feel as free and open and gushy and pure as any enfp. we just mask it much much more and are less in touch with our ability to get into the moment on an easier more consistent basis.