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    Sugar Hiccup OrangeAppled's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coeur View Post
    Has anyone else noticed that all INFPs are eerily similar?
    Not anymore than other types.
    Often a star was waiting for you to notice it. A wave rolled toward you out of the distant past, or as you walked under an open window, a violin yielded itself to your hearing. All this was mission. But could you accomplish it? (Rilke)

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    Another stereotype might be the incoherent hippy who lives in a pigsty and gives out philosophical advice to teenagers.
    Hey my house is quite tidy at the moment, thank you very much!

    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    INFPs tend to be very hard on themselves, don't give themselves much credit, and are often perfectionists. Even if they feel mostly healthy, they probably see tons of room for self-improvement, and they may tend to dwell on where they lack over the positive side.


    And I agree too that enneagram type would be a dramatic influence on the expression of healthy / unhealthy INFP, or any other type for that matter.

    I feel pretty balanced and healthy, but I have learned enough about myself at this point to truly enhance and facilitate optimal functioning. Still, I can get out of balance, just like anyone, so I have to watch for my particular areas of overload and proceed with awareness. Caution areas for me are being too facilitating, too "nice", too accommodating and putting my own needs in "last place" for too long. I also tend to put exercise on the back burner when I am busy with other stuff, and I need to be more conscious of taking care of my physical being too.

    Plus, I tend to have challenges "after" acutely stressful events, so this is a time of acceptance where I have to let my emotions have their moments. During stress I am generally a laser beam of focus, getting things done that need to get done. It's "after" where the emotions catch up, and these can be times where I feel tearful or angry or moody. But I do tend to keep this away from the outside world, so not many folks have any awareness of where I am at emotionally.

    Being a 9 wing, this is likely the manifestation of "harmony at all costs."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Coeur View Post


    Has anyone else noticed that all INFPs are eerily similar?
    Are we??? I haven't met too many other INFP's who were vegetarian, meditate everyday, have martial arts and firearms training, hold there own with INT's in technical discussions, know how to kill people, wanted to be an army commando, have an advanced degree in physics, avoid most "art", do tai chi almost everyday, and read the history of math for fun, amongst various other activities...

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    They'd likely be any of the following: insanely moody, difficult or impossible to reason with, extremely defensive & sensitive, have very poor communication & social skills, self-absorbed, cynical, live in a filthy mess of chaos, be obsessed with minor details they've blown out of proportion, passive-aggressive, have an explosive temper (maybe even violent), a major detachment from reality, seem confused & lost in life, be withdrawn, rebellious, depressed, have an inferiority complex, seem arrogant as a defense, and may isolate themselves from people. There might be substance abuse also.
    Oh my, this describes my father perfectly. Every single word. He's been this way for the last couple of years. I always thought he was IN/SFJ, but this is sounding pretty convincing for INFP. I'll add that he also gets very controlling and emotionally manipulative when he's unhealthy (which he is). He drives my ISTJ mother absolutely crazy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Scott N Denver View Post
    Are we??? I haven't met too many other INFP's who were vegetarian, meditate everyday, have martial arts and firearms training, hold there own with INT's in technical discussions, know how to kill people, wanted to be an army commando, have an advanced degree in physics, avoid most "art", do tai chi almost everyday, and read the history of math for fun, amongst various other activities...
    The history of math? O_o *would rather break every bone in her body, one by one*

    Of course, everybody is different. There just seems to be a pattern for INFPs. A tragic past of some kind that leads to constant daydreaming. That sort of thing.

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    Neurotically stuck in the Fi-Si loop. They put up walls between themselves and the outside world. Totally withdrawn, won't make social overtures, distrust people who make social overtures to them, thinking either the other person is just "being nice" or that they have an ulterior motive to control or use the INFP (because in their logic why else would someone want to bother with someone as inferior as they?).

    Very self effacing, wanting to fade into the background. Wanting love and connection very badly but not feeling secure enough within themselves and/or having enough faith in themselves to risk normal rejection to attain it. Not wanting to "burden" others with their *miserable* company. A neurotic fear of trespassing on others. Magical beliefs, because without being able to use Ne, imagination to put feelers out into the world, they just feel there is no way to navigate such a scary place and things seem aribitrary and unfair in life. Repetitive negative thoughts. No energy to change their own situations or environment, a passive victim to the waves that others make. Unable to give voice to their own righteous anger or to stand up for themselves.

    Picture CatWoman (Michelle Pfeiffer) in "Batman Returns" before she turned into a cat woman.


    Also this might help to get a proper grasp on it:
    Tertiary Si (INxP):

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    Quote Originally Posted by heart View Post
    Totally withdrawn, won't make social overtures, distrust people who make social overtures to them, thinking either the other person is just "being nice" or that they have an ulterior motive to control or use the INFP (because in their logic why else would someone want to bother with someone as inferior as they?).

    Very self effacing, wanting to fade into the background. Wanting love and connection very badly but not feeling secure enough within themselves and/or having enough faith in themselves to risk normal rejection to attain it. Not wanting to "burden" others with their *miserable* company. A neurotic fear of trespassing on others.

    Picture CatWoman (Michelle Pfeiffer) in "Batman Returns" before she turned into a cat woman.

    Also this might help to get a proper grasp on it:
    Tertiary Si (INxP):
    This post is full of win.

    I do find INFPs to be eerily similar in their vibes, but that's what I get from most P types who are more like magnets than shovels (Js). Find the magnet you find the P. And depending on what the J shovels all the time, who knows what it looks like.

    Besides, developed INFPs are awesome. So who cares if they're similar?
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    Aside from the neurotic Fi-Si loop, there's also corrupted judgement where Fi holds the self/Ego as the highest object in life, according to Jung. Rousseau's Confessions in my opinion is a good example of this occuring in a ISFP:

    Carl Jung. "Psychological Types" Book. CHAPTER X (General Description Of The Types). The Introverted type.

    But, wherever the unconscious subject is identified with the ego, the mysterious power of the intensive feeling is also transformed into banal and arrogant ambition, vanity, and [p. 495] petty tyranny. This produces a type of woman most regrettably distinguished by her unscrupulous ambition and mischievous cruelty. But this change in the picture leads also to neurosis.

    So long as the ego feels itself housed, as it were, beneath the heights of the unconscious subject, and feeling reveals something higher and mightier than the ego, the type is normal. The unconscious thinking is certainly archaic, yet its reductions may prove extremely helpful in compensating the occasional inclinations to exalt the ego into the subject. But, whenever this does take place by dint of complete suppression of the unconscious reductive thinking-products, the unconscious thinking goes over into opposition and becomes projected into objects. Whereupon the now egocentric subject comes to feel the power and importance of the depreciated object. Consciousness begins to feel 'what others think'.

    Naturally, others are thinking, all sorts of baseness, scheming evil, and contriving all sorts of plots, secret intrigues, etc. To prevent this, the subject must also begin to carry out preventive intrigues, to suspect and sound others, to make subtle combinations. Assailed by rumours, he must make convulsive efforts to convert, if possible, a threatened inferiority into a superiority.

    Innumerable secret rivalries develop, and in these embittered struggles not only will no base or evil means be disdained, but even virtues will be misused and tampered with in order to play the trump card. Such a development must lead to exhaustion. The form of neurosis is neurasthenic rather than hysterical; in the case of women we often find severe collateral physical states, as for instance anæmia and its sequelæ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post
    Plus, I tend to have challenges "after" acutely stressful events, so this is a time of acceptance where I have to let my emotions have their moments. During stress I am generally a laser beam of focus, getting things done that need to get done. It's "after" where the emotions catch up, and these can be times where I feel tearful or angry or moody. But I do tend to keep this away from the outside world, so not many folks have any awareness of where I am at emotionally.
    Oh, wow. Yup, this is me right now. I played hero for a year and a half until my reserves crashed. Then the emotions caught up. I've overcome the worse of the anger and regret (heh, never cried, INFPm for ya), and am working towards being more well adjusted, balanced, and pursuing my own needs.

    I agree with OrangeAppled and heart's descriptions as well. The Fi-Si loop and tertiary relief were revelatory for me when heart first introduced me to them.

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    I can't say a sweeping statement other than it appears INFPs can be very bitter and resentful. Like an Eeyore complex, when unhealthy.

    But then the healthy ones show such amazing strength and fortitude.

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