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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Awwww, but man that does remind me how much they hated being called "pouty" and "emo" respectively. I had a Korean exchange student roommate once who had only been in the country less than a year. She asked me, "Why is your girlfriend sulking? Did you two have a fight?' LOLOL. No, that was her normal face/demeanor. She might have been tired? Different (same) cultural cues may have come into play, but that does remind me of some of the comments I've heard here from INFPs who say people can misinterpret or attribute emotional states/moods to them that aren't true.
    I get that sometimes & it's annoying. If I don't walk around with a smile plastered on my face like an idiot, then I must be in a bad mood :rolli:. It's almost always extroverts who make those comments. They can't fathom someone quietly thinking I guess. I notice INxPs in general get that kind of reaction to their neutral state.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pitseleh View Post
    What should I do in this situation? I love her a lot but this is what always happens whenever I get to see her.
    You can only help an INFP that wants to be helped. Otherwise, we find your efforts to bring us out intrusive, scary, and presumptuous. They'll only push you away or try to bring you down to their level.

    (PS - change a few words, and that is a people thing in general.)

    Is avoidance an option? Try back later to see if she's improved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    It was just bothering me for whatever reason that fellow INFPs don't want to claim her. I have to claim "Michael Scott" (fictional character) on 'The Office' and my annoying ex-roommate, you have to claim some lemons too! LOL.
    I don't think anyone here even tried to deny that INFP can be very difficult people to deal with. There's nothing attractive about the faults we discussed. We claim our bad traits but people are trying to pin certain traits on us that we're telling you don't sound like how an INFP acts badly at all.

    No one said that INFP cannot act badly. So to say that we're denying our own lemons is just not so.


    SolitaryWalker's outline pretty much sums up how she re/acted. I no longer talk to her because there is literally nothing for us to talk about.
    His post seemed very inline with what the INFP are saying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Udog View Post
    You can only help an INFP that wants to be helped. Otherwise, we find your efforts to bring us out intrusive, scary, and presumptuous. They'll only push you away or try to bring you down to their level.

    (PS - change a few words, and that is a people thing in general.)

    Is avoidance an option? Try back later to see if she's improved.
    @bold, that's what I was referring to in my earliest post. LOL

    I totally agree with you at the "PS" part. According to this post, I have been doing the right thing; staying calm, detached, and acting oblivious. However, there gets to be the point where I just want to explode but don't. There's a good chance that I won't see her (she's my cousin) for a few years unless I go to the same college as her. Also, Udog. she is the same one that I told you about. The one that I cut back the interaction with. I still wanted some perspective to stay open-minded and pointers for future interactions so thank you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SolitaryWalker View Post

    2) Hypersensitivity- Intensity of the focus on the Feeling function makes this type assume that all things are relevant to them in a deeply personal way.

    3) Withdrawn and paranoid- The INFP in question would likely feel disconnected from the world. As the more they introvert, the more they separate themselves from immediate action. This alienation would lead them to harbor resentful sentiments towards those that they feel alienated from, however their timid nature prevents them from making their feelings explicit. They display them in a more subtle, often passive aggressive manner.

    4) Fatalistic- As they have become disconnected from the world they feel that it is fitting for them to deny responsibility for their actions. Their muddled thoughts lead to wishful thinking and hypersensitivity prevents them from accepting any negative notion about themselves. Hence, they assume that whatever happens is the fault of the world and they are in no way responsible for any of it. They tend to see themselves as unfortunate victims of the cruelty of fate.
    It describes me very well in my (frequently) unhealthy moments.
    My intp-infp dilemma is much bigger now...

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    ^ Some thoughts.

    It's a sheer wonder anyone ever comes to successfully type themselves as INFP at all.

    So many profiles describe the INFP as some kind of happy-go-lucky sainted flighty headed angel who lives at Disneyland or something in an extended childhood state and then one thinks: "Oh that's not me."

    Then one comes here and people describe all these "INFP" in their lives as constantly raging emotional volcanos and then ones thinks "OMG, that's really not me."

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    ^

    I wonder, if you know, how do INFPs test mostly on Socionics?
    because most INTPs test INTp (ILI) (and some ENTp, but very rarely LII), so do INFPs test also mostly test INFp in socionics?
    I'm saying this because I like socionics profile better so maybe for INFp it fits better than all mbti's INFP profiles.

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    Perspective: 42 yo INFP. I've found that I'm not happy unless I'm growing - I've done a lot of self education over the years and am currently a non trad. student at my local University. ---There was one period in my life when I didn't have this - and in the process of trying to change what couldn't be changed lost any sense of growth. The process of letting go of this unchangeable situation put me through an undiagnosed mental breakdown and hindsight shows me how far down a path potentially leading to suicide I went. Hindsight only, though, and I never want to put myself in that sort of emotional place again.

    How healthy am I? I'm not sure I can answer that other than to note that grief began the process of putting me in that 'bad' place and I'm on the other side of that particular grief now - loosing my Dad. Now I am dealing with a different grief - my husband died. I work to pay attention to the lessons I learned before - I'm not walking down those particular roads. I am hanging on to the sense that somehow through all these experiences I am still growing. ---So I think I'm doing OK.

    FWIW

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    Either really emo
    really angry
    or overly comical, trying to hide themselves

    Painfully Bipolar

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    Someone who becomes an emotional trainwreck over personal arguments. Someone who can't function in the rest of their life when they're fighting with their S.O. Someone who always leaves the party crying.


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