I am wondering how often NFs (and SFs) think about how much their emotions are realtive.
My this I means that in a situations when you are really happy you start analysing the entire thing by looking at the facts and thinking about why did that make you happy ?
Does the same applys when something makes you unhappy ?
Hmm. First off, I want to say that as a child and into my teens, I wasn't terribly emotionally aware. I mean, I know I was sensitive and I experienced emotions, but I don't know that I ever dissected them, or even could have labelled myself as 'happy' or 'nervous' or 'fearful' or whatever. They just existed, I wasn't preoccupied with them, I was mostly preoccupied with observing the randomness and contradictions and pettiness of the world and people around me. It's only in retrospect that I can throw labels onto my emotional states back then.
By my mid-20's, I became more in tune with my emotions, and decided it was necessary to delve into emotion-land. And that was hard. For a while I was almost panicky, and despairing, at the simple fact that emotions by nature are more transitory and of-the-moment, that I was doomed to face decades of ups-and-downs, happiness and depression, a never-ending, always-changing emotional state. The thought of future-downs, and the hardships of life at times, made me exhausted and not even wanting to bother with this thing called life, and my emotional nature - the nebulous nature of it - was something I protested against and viewed as 'bad', and I was highly annoyed with, well, the relativity of emotions. I thought, what an annoying, cumbersome, difficult way to go through life. But through more analysis and trying to dig deep, I came to accept the nature of myself.
I won't analyze to an intense degree every time I feel sad, or angry, or even happy or joyful, anymore, because I feel like it's almost like I spent those couple of yrs of analyzing- hardcore analyzing - myself and the nature of my emotions, such that there's almost no point these days in pure analysis-- as I've already done it. Don't get me wrong, the 'why's' as to why I'm feeling the way I am are always important to me, and new situations or twists always arise so analysis will never fully go away - ha!
- but I've spent so much of my life introspecting that I already know the 'why's' of a lot of these things.
I typically analyze now only when said emotion or thought-pattern is dramatically impacting my ability to navigate through life, or through a certain problem, or if the emotion is a lasting one, that lasts for weeks. But in terms of everday sorta emotions, I'm more like: 'Oh yay, here's Mr. Annoyance stepping in for a while. Nice to see ya again, I know you won't be around for long so I'll just let you have your couple of hours here and then I'll see you off.'
It's just old hat, I already know what sets me off, and how if I'm suddenly feeling insecure it's because of reason X, at root - not the minor reason Y which triggered it.
Also I am wondering how often do you think about things but you don't attach any emotional value to it? Which leads into situation that you understand that something will make you feel good or bad but there is nothing more to it is since this is only your emotional reaction while that thing or situation just is.
I'm editing what I originally wrote because I was totally thinking of something else initially (and making your question more convoluted than it actually is!), and actually this is a pretty straightforward question.
I'm 'neutral' about many elements of life, so emotion isn't always there and in real life I come across much more detached and unemotional than many; and there are many aspects of life, and certain decisions, that require a lack of emotion. Some things are quite objective. And, as I've posted before, with 'big issues', I often become almost agnostic and don't feel one way or another about something, because of how complicated it is.