Here is the first Fi vs Fe thread. I would like to present the scenario and then have the Fi users and Fe users not attack one another.
Rather I would like both to discuss what they meant to convey and those on the perceiving end to discuss what they perceived on their end. Each situation will have both sides. Think of Fi/Fe as two languages where we just need to prepare a set of tools to translate. These situations are embarrassing as I don’t mean to do this stuff, but I do and I am trying to self calibrate so I will sacrifice myself for the topic.
Please add your interpretations of how you would perceive each situation as an:
1) Fi user receiving these signals
2) Fe user receiving these signals
3) Fi user sending these signals
Please add your scenarios that illustrate this same Fi vs Tert Fe theme so we can each comment on what we see from our different perspectives.
Scenario 1: I very much liked an ENTP boy. The ENTP was very flirty, friendly, sweet, touchy, affectionate. He was very into me in a sexual way. He acted like we had a very intense emotional bond and an intense connection when he saw me. He looked like he loved me. However when not around he would not call or email except very sporadically.
I'll provide an answer for this one:
Fi saw love-unicorn style
Tertiary Fe honestly cares but in a short term emo way, not an in depth long term connectivity. Fe was like WTF when I hit it with intense Fi emo rays. He was very confused and wanted a hook up where I thought he really had emo feelings for me.
A tert Fe user on this site started joking with me and playing and being very flirty and fun. I saw Fi and responded and wrote a crazy, silly poem with lots of Fi. The person quickly withdrew.
Fi Answer: Fi saw emo intimacy and assumed Fi connectivity.
Fe response:They were playing with Fe as a social interactive tool to have fun. My Fi response was too intense, too emo, too fast and ended up likely intruding onto their personal space and they quickly withdrew.
Again almost exact of scenario 2, but on a dating site rather than here. I have also done this in real life several times.
We can cheat a bit as I have Two threads I started from both directions of this issue trying to understand what was happening: