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[MBTI General] INFJ Compatibility - Why the INFJ/ENTP dynamic is hands down the best.

Little Linguist

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First off I need to add a caveat, I'm a single ENTP so maybe my intentions are to try and swoon one of you INFJs but what's wrong with that.

No really (well, additionally), I wrote this to get these thoughts out of my head and thought I would share because there does seem to be some confusion about how these functions work and just what it is to be an introvert or extrovert.

I will say there has to be a huge level of self awareness on the ENTP side, something I think is rare before 30 and I wouldn't trust a young ENTP myself so a word of caution to any heartbreak that may arise from pursuits of young ENTPs.

To fully explain this I need to go more in depth on MBTI itself so I'm sorry in advance if you already know this as well as for my inability to be terse. MBTI is not just 8 letters and being an INFJ for example doesn't mean only what the letters say at face value. As an example an ENFJ is not just the extroverted version of the INFJ, they are VERY different. The two middle letters are the main focus each with an extroverted or introverted possibility. So you can have Ne, Ni, Te, Ti, Fe, Fi, Se and Si in many different orders. To give an example, Se is very sensory based, an ESFP would lead with this function as their main way (or least energy) of processing the world and making choices. To stereo type, the ESFP is the classic sorority girl who will date a douche bag asshole based only on his looks. In the case of the ESFP this Se function is followed up with Fi which is about internal feelings, when used correctly this translates to a self aware person, when wrong very selfish. Also the reason the ESFP is all about "me" and what is everybody going to do for "me". What a messed up function (Se) to lead with right!

Now if you move on to a person with a dominant function of Ti such as with an INTP, you have the classic perfectionist engineer with tape on their glasses who doesn't even notice how messed up their hair is. Mainly because they lead Ti, Ne, Si and Fe leaving them with sensortardation (you and I have this as well) because we don't notice surroundings and do stupid things like walk into closed doors or forget we just brushed our teeth and brush them again, this is due to how in our own heads we are, always thinking. So again the INTP totally lacking the Se function would be oblivious to their appearance where as the ESFP would care only about their appearance.

With that said, the INFJ is Ni, Fe, Ti and lastly Se leaving them with a dominant (or no energy to use) function of Ni that generates endless possibilities in an internal world. This is the reason they can picture things clearly and in such detail when they read (almost as if they're watching a movie in their head), this is why they can be alone in their own mind for long amounts of time and never get bored. With a secondary function of Fe, this is what allows them such an amazing ability to read people and is also what makes them such an enigma, they generate all these possibilities yet follow them up with Fe, a function that's VERY people based. They feel SO amazingly deep because they can visualize what other people feel in an endless world with no boundaries or rules that they haven't given it.

To move on the ENTP is Ne, Ti, Fe and Si leaving them a dominant function of Ne, so they're as vivid as the INFJ except in the external world, their fantasies are about building things and with any and every thing they look at they wonder how it works and if they can make it better. They follow this up with Ti so they take all these possibilities and filter them with internal thinking. They can look at something very simple, imagine it 500 other ways and quickly think about what would work the best. It also affords them the luxury of being extremely quick witted and good at debates, because they can generate 50 possibilities and figure out what works best before most people can think of one. So if INFJs are the enigma having the Ni function followed by Fe (one being so internal the other being so people driven) ENTPs would be the paradox in that their first two functions are not people based and even though their dominant function is an extroverted one it's the extroverted function that doesn't need other people, leaving them the most introverted of all the extroverts. In fact with INFJs secondary function of Fe they're more extroverted than an ENTP although it doesn't look that way on the surface. Picture the INFJ as water dripping into a bucket, picture the ENTP when the bucket finally tips.

The ENTP/INFJ dynamic is so amazing because if you look at how we look at the world it's:

Ni Fe Ti Se
Ne Ti Fe Si

What that boils down to is picture a sock and somebody reaching in and pulling it inside out. ENTPs have the same depth INFJs do in a different way, ENTPs are the same as INFJs yet opposed in a way that is more reversed than opposite. The functions line up in a way that leaves both feeling totally understood yet with endless learning possibilities and total balance. They're like mental playgrounds for one another and it never gets old because both worlds are based in endless possibilities. This same dynamic holds true for the ENFP/INTJ.

Where the four dominant intuitives differer so much from other types (and why this dynamic is so interesting among the ENTP/INFJ) is our satisfaction (or mostly, lack of) in relationships due to our desire for a deep mental connection, both are looking for mind mates and both want the ideal relationship. Overall we (dominant intuitives) have the most consistent moral systems and are most likely to be disappointed if someone falls short of those moral standards. Both are very growth oriented, passionate, deep and unwilling to be in a relationship of routine that gets old and lazy in time. You do not "get", "capture", "confine", "own" or "cage" an ENTP, ENFP, INFJ or INTJ, those are the four types that pick you.

The issue with the difficulty in starting an ENTP/INFJ relationship isn't limited to one thing. First off, neither is used to being understood so there's this never ending clarification and "know what I'm saying", "if that makes sense" issue. Both are in dismay somebody else understands with such ease. However because we take different paths to the same place we'll ask things like "why'd you do that" just to understand, when explained the other person totally gets it but because we're so used to the same thing happening with a different outcome it preys on our frustration or issues of never feeling understood. Secondly the INFJ is hard to get out of their shell and the ENTP is quick to run back to theirs. The INFJ has this feeling initially that they'll never get the space they want because they see the ENTP extroverting and the ENTP swears you're not interested. The INFJ will have this constant push/pull I want it no I don't issue and have to fight to get the flood gate open. The ENTP will have this run while you still can issue and have a tough time keeping the flood gate from shutting. Both speak truly and honestly but have a tendency to try reading between the lines with the other when there's nothing there to be read. We apply our own motivations to the other persons actions which is never correct (different path to the same place) and this all takes some excellent and very open communication. These issues don't last long however so at least that's a plus. We're both a type that never really lets people in and we're both amazing at reading people so we're faced with an issue of holy shit this is going to hurt if it doesn't work so both need to want love more than the fear of having it. We're both so whole alone but together there's an overlapping of abilities that gives the other a peephole (I read that four times and kept thinking there was a missing p) into a whole different world. I can tell you right off the bat, if I (as an ENTP) had internal issues I was hiding I wouldn't even consider pursuing an INFJ until I had my head on right because I know it would be picked up on instantly.

There two things I would like to add while I'm thinking about them. I've compared the ENTP and INFJ to opposite sides of the same coin saying we're exactly the same yet totally different.

I would say the ENTP and INFJ are both the oddity of the MBTI world on the introverted and extroverted side. We don't really fit in anyplace and are the two types that most often feel quirky, misunderstood and like there is no way anybody will every accept much less understand and love how different we are.

Anyway, what dawned on me is the false low score we often get on our E function. My dominant Ne function is very high yet I will sometimes only score 54% E and on occasion I will test as INTP. This is because depending on the test I will answer all questions like "you feel comfortable in a crowd" with a yes (standard extrovert answer) yet also answer all questions like "you require a lot of alone time" with a yes, standard introvert answer. This conflict is due to leading Ne, an extroverted function that doesn't need people at all.

By contrast and backing up everything else I've said. INFJs often falsely test as INFPs, because while the ENTP is the most introverted extrovert the INFJ is the least orderly J. With MBTI these are the only two anomalies like this I'm aware of.

I have never probed enough on this topic to explain why this is the case with INFJs and that J function but I do find it interesting and in line with everything else I've said.

Also, ENTPs are the slowest to mature and the INFJ is of course the quickest so I think a 5 to 10 year age difference with the ENTP being older is ideal if not essential. The downside for the INFJ maturing so quickly is because you already feel so different and alone (the ENTP does as well but being the extrovert with an over sized ego they haven't noticed it yet and is enjoying still thinking they're better than everybody else) you also don't feel like you fit in with other people your age so by the time the ENTP has matured the INFJ is feeling jaded, frustrated and starting to let go of that ideal picture of love they've always had and can find in the ENTP.

Damn this was long, sorry, only a saint or INFJ (same thing I guess less the dark humor) would read all of this.

^^^ See this is why I like video blogs - if you write something like this everyone goes HOLY SHIT, but if you have a four-minute movie, where you actually say more, people say COOL! :D :cool:

Good luck on your INFJ hunt! ;) Then you can get back and let us know if your hypotheses were correct.
 

Udog

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You know if it was an ENTP, they made you think that you gladly handed it over. ;)

Oh, so there is still crying, but it's now tears of joy?
 

Samvega

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I'm not so much on an INFJ hunt as I am interested in thought provoking topics. This was just something I wanted to understand on a level that could be put into words. The the wild, there is nurture/nature, attraction, future goals and a ton of other issues to get in the way.

This isn't a personals post or me trying to get a date. I have zero troubles meeting people in person and my energy would yield far better results in places other than behind this keyboard if that were my main objective.

The title does say "why" not "is" for a reason and while I could have put this up as a blog just as well I figured I would share it in a manner that left it open to debate.
 

dustmite30

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Everything you said about the ENTP and INFJ relationship seemed to be right on the mark. My boyfriend is an ENTP, and Im an INFJ. We have most of the problems, and the benefits, you spoke about in our relationship. It's weird because everything you said, especially about the miscommunication between us, is true. When I tested him, my guess whas actually to think he was an INTP, because he's always scientifically minded. But he does always want to debate as well, and I personally hate that about him. He's always trying to one up me, and I think its dumb so I usually let him win.

Another thing about us, sometimes we get into the deepest conversations, and we dont even know what each other is talking about. That sounds really dumb when I type it out, but you explained it alot better when you discussed the illusion between communication and open-and-closed flooded gate thing.

And the part you said about the introverted extraverted thing, well thats totally true in our realtionship! as an ENTP, he is "extraverted" but alot of the time he comes off rude and unattentive to people who dont know him. He always has his gaurd up.

Me on the other hand, I definetley shyer than him, but im defentley more open to meeting new people and holding conversations. We cant even go out with our friends on dates together, for this reason: my friends think he's a douche. ( he's not, he just doesnt like to talk)

So, it seems like youve done alot of research on the INFJ/ENTP realtionship. Do you have any INFJ friends?
 

BlahBlahNounBlah

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Everything you said about the ENTP and INFJ relationship seemed to be right on the mark. My boyfriend is an ENTP, and Im an INFJ. We have most of the problems, and the benefits, you spoke about in our relationship. It's weird because everything you said, especially about the miscommunication between us, is true. When I tested him, my guess whas actually to think he was an INTP, because he's always scientifically minded. But he does always want to debate as well, and I personally hate that about him. He's always trying to one up me, and I think its dumb so I usually let him win.

Another thing about us, sometimes we get into the deepest conversations, and we dont even know what each other is talking about. That sounds really dumb when I type it out, but you explained it alot better when you discussed the illusion between communication and open-and-closed flooded gate thing.

And the part you said about the introverted extraverted thing, well thats totally true in our realtionship! as an ENTP, he is "extraverted" but alot of the time he comes off rude and unattentive to people who dont know him. He always has his gaurd up.

Me on the other hand, I definetley shyer than him, but im defentley more open to meeting new people and holding conversations. We cant even go out with our friends on dates together, for this reason: my friends think he's a douche. ( he's not, he just doesnt like to talk)

So, it seems like youve done alot of research on the INFJ/ENTP realtionship. Do you have any INFJ friends?


Does he dislike your friends? I can be very inattentive to people I dislike.



He seems immature. Is he very young?
 

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I read the first post. Nice arguement. You get an award:
INTP APROVED!
 

ladypinkington

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So if INFJs are the enigma having the Ni function followed by Fe (one being so internal the other being so people driven) ENTPs would be the paradox in that their first two functions are not people based and even though their dominant function is an extroverted one it's the extroverted function that doesn't need other people, leaving them the most introverted of all the extroverts. In fact with INFJs secondary function of Fe they're more extroverted than an ENTP although it doesn't look that way on the surface. Picture the INFJ as water dripping into a bucket, picture the ENTP when the bucket finally tips.

This is so true. I am an INFJ and my hubby is an ENTP and I often come across as the extrovert and he the introvert to most people,lol.

What that boils down to is picture a sock and somebody reaching in and pulling it inside out. ENTPs have the same depth INFJs do in a different way, ENTPs are the same as INFJs yet opposed in a way that is more reversed than opposite. The functions line up in a way that leaves both feeling totally understood yet with endless learning possibilities and total balance. They're like mental playgrounds for one another and it never gets old because both worlds are based in endless possibilities. This same dynamic holds true for the ENFP/INTJ.

So true. My hubby is the only person in the world whom i feel truely understands me. Perhaps it is the shared humility that comes from being curious. Both types are very curious and so are eager to learn and are open to new information and are constantly observing and therefore are constantly learning. Most other people tend to come to a complete judgement or come to conclusions about me and box me in or type cast me and who I am and was and will be- where as he sees trends but is aware that there are many layers and an infinite supply of mystery- he is aware that I have many parts in the play that is my life. Same with me for him- I don't take for granted that I know my husband and who he is- I am eager to always learn more. The more you learn the more you understand- the more you realize how much you don't know thereby keeping the animal hungry to learn more. He actually helps me realize how much I don't know about myself too and vice versa- I love that

I would say the ENTP and INFJ are both the oddity of the MBTI world on the introverted and extroverted side. We don't really fit in anyplace and are the two types that most often feel quirky, misunderstood and like there is no way anybody will every accept much less understand and love how different we are.

oh yeah- ENTP's are the most fascinating and at home to me. While INFJ's can tap into emotions and have empathy powers- I feel that ENTP's do the same with tapping into how people think and have catalyst powers. I often help reveal and help hubby process how and what he is feeling- and he does that for me with helping to reveal and help me process what and how I am thinking- he does it like no other. There is definately a loving of how different we are and it boggles our mind everyday how it even happens. Hubby and I constantly talk about how we don't fit in anywhere and are both so unconventional and how that alienates us from people but helps to bring us closer together because we just get it and it seems natural.

By contrast and backing up everything else I've said. INFJs often falsely test as INFPs, because while the ENTP is the most introverted extrovert the INFJ is the least orderly J. With MBTI these are the only two anomalies like this I'm aware of.

I can certainly relate the not being very orderly. I think you made a great observation there. I do realize how much less of a J I tend to seem to be compared with other J's.

Also, ENTPs are the slowest to mature and the INFJ is of course the quickest so I think a 5 to 10 year age difference with the ENTP being older is ideal if not essential. The downside for the INFJ maturing so quickly is because you already feel so different and alone (the ENTP does as well but being the extrovert with an over sized ego they haven't noticed it yet and is enjoying still thinking they're better than everybody else) you also don't feel like you fit in with other people your age so by the time the ENTP has matured the INFJ is feeling jaded, frustrated and starting to let go of that ideal picture of love they've always had and can find in the ENTP.

Another excellent point. Hubby is seven years older then I and somehow we are big kids at heart and are yet old souls- we were at the same levels at the same time. I think it just takes longer for an ENTP to figure out what he/she wants-perhaps because of the love of possibilities and the fears that could come from that- I don't know- I knew what I wanted in a person and relationship way way earlier because I was so focused on it and studied relationships around me and we were ready to search for the same things at the same time while benefitting from the age gap.

sorry I don't know how to really multi quote so I responded in bold and bigger print within the quote thingie.

there is so much more I wanted to say yes that is so right to but I was afraid it would take too long,lol. Great points. Nailed them on the head. I also think it works because ENTP's and INFJ's are similar enough that they can understand each other and are able to bring a sense of belonging and an at home feeling- a sense of completeness together the infj intot he heart and the entp with the mind but different enough that they keep each other mystified and interested.
 

Samvega

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sorry I don't know how to really multi quote so I responded in bold and bigger print within the quote thingie.

there is so much more I wanted to say yes that is so right to but I was afraid it would take too long,lol. Great points. Nailed them on the head. I also think it works because ENTP's and INFJ's are similar enough that they can understand each other and are able to bring a sense of belonging and an at home feeling- a sense of completeness together the infj intot he heart and the entp with the mind but different enough that they keep each other mystified and interested.

THANK YOU FOR RESPONDING! This is the type of first hand info that is so hard to find, the pitfalls and advantages, the practical side of the age gap issue that I think is almost mandatory and all the other little affirmation type details that I know to be true but have no long term examples.

Please you're welcome to go to town and expand as much as you would like.

Adam
 

cascadeco

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The issue with the difficulty in starting an ENTP/INFJ relationship isn't limited to one thing. First off, neither is used to being understood so there's this never ending clarification and "know what I'm saying", "if that makes sense" issue. Both are in dismay somebody else understands with such ease. However because we take different paths to the same place we'll ask things like "why'd you do that" just to understand, when explained the other person totally gets it but because we're so used to the same thing happening with a different outcome it preys on our frustration or issues of never feeling understood. Secondly the INFJ is hard to get out of their shell and the ENTP is quick to run back to theirs. The INFJ has this feeling initially that they'll never get the space they want because they see the ENTP extroverting and the ENTP swears you're not interested. The INFJ will have this constant push/pull I want it no I don't issue and have to fight to get the flood gate open. The ENTP will have this run while you still can issue and have a tough time keeping the flood gate from shutting. Both speak truly and honestly but have a tendency to try reading between the lines with the other when there's nothing there to be read. We apply our own motivations to the other persons actions which is never correct (different path to the same place) and this all takes some excellent and very open communication. These issues don't last long however so at least that's a plus. We're both a type that never really lets people in and we're both amazing at reading people so we're faced with an issue of holy shit this is going to hurt if it doesn't work so both need to want love more than the fear of having it. We're both so whole alone but together there's an overlapping of abilities that gives the other a peephole (I read that four times and kept thinking there was a missing p) into a whole different world. I can tell you right off the bat, if I (as an ENTP) had internal issues I was hiding I wouldn't even consider pursuing an INFJ until I had my head on right because I know it would be picked up on instantly.

Interesting reading an ENTP perspective on this. I've been friends with an ENTP for...9 years?...although while I was still in Minnesota he moved to a different state so for 5 of those yrs we weren't really in touch. Anyway, now I live where he lives, so we've started hanging out a little bit.

At least back in Minnesota, a long while ago, I always sensed there was this odd dynamic where neither of us quite knew what to do with the other, maybe a 'waiting game' on both of our parts. At one point I became interested in dating him, but as those things go I then met someone else. And he never initiated anything with me, so I assumed that he wasn't interested (perhaps rightly so? I tend to think extroverts especially will just ask someone out if they're interested).

Blah, this isn't going anywhere! haha.

To the OP/title of the thread -- while I think many types can work out just fine together, I will admit that for myself I'm coming to realize how 'necessary' an Ne complement might be for me. NiTi just bogs me down in an internal world, where I come to see so many possibilities that I become immobile and sort of Defeatist. Ne provides a necessary 'awakening', and refreshing viewpoint (Ne seems more optimistic by nature), brainstorming options, more concretely externalizing things. Definitely pulls me out of myself, and provides a perspective that gives me more clarity - and hope. :)
 

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Interesting reading an ENTP perspective on this. I've been friends with an ENTP for...9 years?...although while I was still in Minnesota he moved to a different state so for 5 of those yrs we weren't really in touch. Anyway, now I live where he lives, so we've started hanging out a little bit.

At least back in Minnesota, a long while ago, I always sensed there was this odd dynamic where neither of us quite knew what to do with the other, maybe a 'waiting game' on both of our parts. At one point I became interested in dating him, but as those things go I then met someone else. And he never initiated anything with me, so I assumed that he wasn't interested (perhaps rightly so? I tend to think extroverts especially will just ask someone out if they're interested).

Hate to let you down, but it could also have been him waiting for you to give him some sort of sign that he could go ahead and pull the trigger.
 

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it's obviously a good pairing. it probably makes even more sense with male entp and female infj, but it could work for either pretty well. i think female infp works pretty well for entp male too, one of my best friends is an entp and he is a long-term relationship with an infp. she keeps him in check, great integrity, warmth, etc. great person, both of them are.

i think more important is just dominant intuitive fits together with other dominant intuitive types. there are many methods of partnership in the world, some romantic and some not. i find entp to be my most natural creative partnership, so ideas focused, so in love with possibilities and exploration. so metaphoric and inventive and conceptual. it works really well. i will always seek out entps in this regard. at home it feels a bit different. i'm rather introverted, or, perhaps more aptly, i prefer my introverted time to extraversion quite often. i am much much much more one-on-one. i am in a serious relationship with an intj and it works great. we are both geeky dominant intuitive introverts. we do geeky things, play chess, play tennis, read books, watch arty movies, cook, spend quality time together. her Te is probably more of what i need in that aspect of my life. our understanding is so transparent, so deeply entrenched, we care about/show consideration for each other very very easily. i think she is better at bringing out the best in me and compensating for my weaknesses. our domestic life is great, she is very supportive, i start to lose the feeling of wanting something new (more more more!) and realize i couldn't be happier. we both enrich each other in an intensely complimentary way. the differences are perfect.

i can see why entp and enfp would work too, the more and more i meet and get to know people of these types. all dominant intuitives communicate the fuck out of their ideas with each other. but i also see why this works for me and the huge unfolding map of possibilities open in our situation as we currently have constructed it. it's an inspiring feeling. time to do, to develop, build, etc. and while my home life feels good, there is always a need for other people to become part of your life in other social/discursive spheres. the enps are tops in that list, helping join forces to get something done in a way that we both find mutually rewarding. my intj is more introverted than me, which i think makes it easier gender-wise. we have a really nice balance with i/e and my occasional gushy fness.

tho, as i always say, i have a big soft spot for inps too. they keep my integrity in check, while providing really artistic, aesthetically rich pools of experience and knowledge. and they make great and inspiring friends, companions, art-mates, etc. but communication is not as easy as with other dominant intuitives, like playing volleyball with 24 volleyballs flying back and forth over the net at the same time and in different directions.
 

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Hate to let you down, but it could also have been him waiting for you to give him some sort of sign that he could go ahead and pull the trigger.

Yep, quite possible. :yes:

I may see about exploring that in the near future...
 

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at home it feels a bit different. i'm rather introverted, or, perhaps more aptly, i prefer my introverted time to extraversion quite often. i am much much much more one-on-one. i am in a serious relationship with an intj and it works great. we are both geeky dominant intuitive introverts. we do geeky things, play chess, play tennis, read books, watch arty movies, cook, spend quality time together. her Te is probably more of what i need in that aspect of my life. our understanding is so transparent, so deeply entrenched, we care about/show consideration for each other very very easily. i think she is better at bringing out the best in me and compensating for my weaknesses. our domestic life is great, she is very supportive, i start to lose the feeling of wanting something new (more more more!) and realize i couldn't be happier. we both enrich each other in an intensely complimentary way. the differences are perfect.

i can see why entp and enfp would work too, the more and more i meet and get to know people of these types. all dominant intuitives communicate the fuck out of their ideas with each other. but i also see why this works for me and the huge unfolding map of possibilities open in our situation as we currently have constructed it. it's an inspiring feeling. time to do, to develop, build, etc. and while my home life feels good, there is always a need for other people to become part of your life in other social/discursive spheres. the enps are tops in that list, helping join forces to get something done in a way that we both find mutually rewarding. my intj is more introverted than me, which i think makes it easier gender-wise. we have a really nice balance with i/e and my occasional gushy fness.

tho, as i always say, i have a big soft spot for inps too. they keep my integrity in check, while providing really artistic, aesthetically rich pools of experience and knowledge. and they make great and inspiring friends, companions, art-mates, etc. but communication is not as easy as with other dominant intuitives, like playing volleyball with 24 volleyballs flying back and forth over the net at the same time and in different directions.

You have clearly been on typec enough to know a thing or two so I'm not going to go into the fundamentals I'm just going to assume you know. I will only say that I know more than one INFJ/INTJ couple, fairly common when you factor in them being two of the three least common types. By contrast I don't know a single Ne/Ne couple and it would honestly disturb me, other Ne doms feel like family to me.

I've heard a lot of INFJs say "gross", "that's nasty" or "that's like incest" when talking about Ni/Ni pairings. To partly use something Synarch once said I/I couples have WAY TOO much self and E/E couples don't have enough.

I think you should get two magnets to illustrate this example, try putting the two -/- together and see how that works, now give the +/+ a try and you'll understand why you see two Is together but never two Es, because with the Es it's very clear there's an issue where as with the two Is they feel safe in a lazy sort of way. Now try the -/+ and you will better understand something that was very clear to Jung.

As for the introverting/extroverting where it relates to a Ne dom. People WHY ARE YOU NOT GETTING THIS! The four most introverted of all the MBTI types are:

ENTP
INFP
INTJ
INTP

Notice, you as an INFJ with a secondary Fe function don't make that list. Most introverted would be a Ti/Ne (that's makes perfect sense followed by a Ni/Te, Fi/Ne and coming in as the most introverted of all the extroverts...Ne/Ti.

I'm saying this because I keep hearing the same thing over and over again about ENTPs and it makes me question if the people saying it actually know one or if they just met one that was extroverting.

Picture the ENTP like the turbo charged introvert, it's there when we need it but sometimes you seriously need to talk me into using it.

Hell, Sunday I went out with my INFJ friend at a club and he was hanging in there, I had to walk out just to get away from people cause I couldn't deal with them anymore.
 

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Hell, Sunday I went out with my INFJ friend at a club and he was hanging in there, I had to walk out just to get away from people cause I couldn't deal with them anymore.

I know exactly what you're saying - but just want to make a quick point of clarification. Unlike I introverts, an ENTP doesn't have to back off because he or she is drained of energy from socializing - quite the opposite, in fact. Backing off occurs because the people are boring them, and he or she can find something else much more engaging to be around.

An ENTP at the club isn't going to want to leave to go home and read a book (the night is way too young). An ENTP at the club is going to want to either find someone to hook up with relatively quickly, find something fun and stupid to do (say, dance like a maniac), find some interesting people to have an in-depth conversation with, or leave. If leaving, and the option presents itself between 1) going home and doing something quiet, 2) go to another club with some more interesting friends, or 3) go to someone's house/Starbucks to have interesting conversations, options 2 and 3 win every time.
 

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Actually. I'm likely to leave a group because I start feeling like an outsider or different from people. Until I start feeling this way, I am very social.
 

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By contrast I don't know a single Ne/Ne couple and it would honestly disturb me, other Ne doms feel like family to me.

I know an ENTP-ENTP couple that goes off and on. And yes, it is disturbing.
 

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I know an ENTP-ENTP couple that goes off and on. And yes, it is disturbing.

I dated an ENFP off and on once. It was fucking exhausting. Constant push / pull and drama and competing for the limelight.
 

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As for the introverting/extroverting where it relates to a Ne dom. People WHY ARE YOU NOT GETTING THIS! The four most introverted of all the MBTI types are:

ENTP
INFP
INTJ
INTP
Why aren't you getting this? Extraversion doesn't have to be about relating to other people. ENTPs are not introverted because their dominant function is Ne, which is focused outside of themselves. Ne needs outside resources, doesn't have to be people though.

I dated an ENFP off and on once. It was fucking exhausting. Constant push / pull and drama and competing for the limelight.

You with an ENFP? Why do I feel bad for her?
 
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