i agree that it is not easy. and i agree that that's not the point. relationships are not easy. the more relating, the less easy. relating takes work, dammit! communicative work. you gotta build an infrastructure of meaning to share. you may be able to be symbiotic and control behaviors, or bodies, but minds and hearts take an ongoing process of exploring both similarity and difference, of expressing and listening and empathizing. of comprehending the vastness within all things. of building constructs to bridge experience and also be willing to let them go, even when you become attached to them. like the gibran poem that says you need two separate pillars aware of their separateness to have a strong foundation for unity.
and what comes out of this excessive relatability is integration, and the willingness to let go of the attachment to your specific way of seeing the world. most spiritual development is in the interstices between functions rather than in the functions themselves. letting go of that damned certainty, and being willing to relate to the unknown more openly, more fully.
the joy of the dynamic is that it comes from two super fucking weird types, especially when you get to the real truthiness of the interior (beyond what they show others), when you truly relate to the spaciousness within and explore that and allow yourselves to teach other how to find your respective ways. and how you learn what it takes to try to make it work with each other in the conditions of this world as it is for us and the others surrounding us right now, the games we all play.