I don't do that (I think...). I just kind of tell the person "Look, shape up or ship out" if their behavior is really bothering me. But a younger, more timid me would have done that.
Originally Posted by sanveane
Ah yes, this could be true. I definitely restrict access to myself when I'm upset and want to be alone. And I am very stubborn when set on something, as in 'I will do it with or without you'. Though I don't do it with the intent of getting my way.
We all have our ways of being "nasty" or "manipulative", whether we realize it or not. Admittedly, I don't have a lot of experience with INFJs, but I was working on a film with one a few months ago and when she didn't approve of my methods, she would say such sharp and criticizing words to everyone around her, instead of just to me. She would just mutter nasty sentences indirectly that were meant for me, but directed at others. When she saw it had no effect on me, she slowly turned silent.
I watched her eyes drift away slowly, day after day. This made my entire crew give up their principles to please her, whether that was her intention or not. They just felt bad. I guess it's their own fault (I sure as hell didn't fall for it), but not everyone thinks the way I do. I did not budge, and forced my crew to continue on because my ultimate goal was not her happiness, but the collective project and the morale of my entire crew - not just her. Her silent disapproval was a shadow over the rest of the project and everyone felt it. It was horrible. She still won't speak to me to this day, and I haven't even noticed or cared. I don't like this sort of behavior as much as she didn't like mine.
He doesn't know me well, and he's acting that way.
You are being quite unladylike. A lady would have the decorum not to be a scolding harridan with someone she doesn't know.
(Also, if you were truly offended by my wry commentary, you could have communicated with me in a less public manner, if that was your goal. Not that it matters to me. Just pointing out your inconsistencies.)
"Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."
Ooh, I just nailed down ENTP manipulation (for want of a better word) - it's letting someone hang themselves.
That's exactly right. I just keep asking basic questions that to you might seem unrelated, but the more you talk, the more your contradictions appear on their own. I don't enjoy watching someone choke on their own words, but often people "need to be lead" to the truth. If I just come right out and say that you are being a hypocrite, I am looking forward to an hour of your defensiveness. But you can't be defensive against yourself. Good observation.