My little sister, Grace (9) has long since been an ENTJ...or so I thought!
Here's the run down. She's my half sister, and after her mother and my father split up a year ago, she's gone from living in one family to going between our house and her mother's and it's definitely taking a toll of her, as she's struggling with all of the whip lash from the constant change of environment.
She's really bossy. She's nine. She lives with me, my INFP sister, and my ENFP Dad..and she really is the boss of us when she's here. She's very very outgoing, she hangs out with friends more than I do and doesn't ever seem to need down time. She's clearly an N, I've known it since she was little because she could spend hours by herself playing in an imaginary world with her barbies or polly pockets or whatever and she is always writing little books and stories.
It's the Thinking vs. Feeling issue I have recently been awakened to. She's hardcore, and a bit self centered. She's driven, but easily cries and is easily discouraged. She is highly offended when you criticize her and will usually get angry and then sad. Seems to me that an ENTJ wouldn't let these little things get in the way, but Grace does. She gets really down because of this life she's living. She's been crying a lot these past few months and it's heartbreaking. I really can't add anymore input to add to either side of the pendulum, so I'll leave it open for questions and answers. Thanks!