My relationship with my INTJ friend has been rocky the past few months so I decided to call him out of the blue today and see if I could patch things up a bit. The convo went like this:
Me: Hey Friend(his name), it's Alex
Friend: What's up (with a very short and pissed off tone)
Me: Hey man, havn't talked with you in a while, just wanted to say hi
Friend: Yeah (again, very short)
Me: Uhhh, so how you doin?
Friend: Look, I'm in the middle of something I gotta go.
Me: Ok..... cya
I havn't talked to him in a good 3 months. The last few phone convos have been pretty similer, but this one was more passive agressive than usual.
We used to joke that we have been friend since the womb because we were born only a week apart and grew up together, seriously best friends.
It's sad because he has never came to me with the obvious issues he has with me. I know he has heard some stuff about me, but not from me, and I know his sources are pretty bias since they have major ulterior motives.
But my main issue, is that if he wants to end the 25 year friendship, just tell me. Send me a letter or something, I think it's cowardly to just brush me off and say "he is doing something right now" or whatever. That's the kind of respect I get? That's how he wants a 25 year friendship to end? It's baffeling.
I have tried to get information out of him, but he's not interested in talking, he's kind of made up his mind based on heresay