I have a wonderful female enfp who is into extreme sports, as well as being a pediatrician. She said they were typed in school and she was the only enfp in her class. She has also talked about her problems with procrastination, and though she's in a really committed relationship now, it took a while to get there. She had a tendency of running away until he pinned her down I do know her to be an extremely loving and honest friend, really open and down to earth.
I'm getting to know a male enfp as well, and I must say I'm intrigued. He has said that we have conversations longer than any he's ever had with anyone in which there are no disagreements. He said this before I knew his type, but it led me to believe that conflict is very difficult for him. We're keeping it light for now, but yeah, I'm interested. I want to see if he's a 'grass is greener' type. I certainly hope not!
We are amazing, I'm not gonna lie. That being said however there are several things about us you should know. We aim to please and are like chameleons in social situations. Little children love me. Old people love me. Everyone loves me. I know of only one person in this world who doesn't like me and it is because I had to take him aside and tell him in very plain english that I couldn't stand to be around him anymore and that I never wanted to talk to him again.
On that note let me say this and let me use Ocean's 13 to help me illustrate...
At the end of the movie Danny(clooney) says to Al Pacino's character "I know all of the same people you'd send after me and they like me better."
Don't piss off an ENFP inside a group of friends because I can almost guarantee that the ENFP will find a way to put you out of the group, we can extremely manipulative when we find the need to be.
As far as our feelings go, I am stepping out on a limb here because I am going based on my own experiences and not knowing the types of almost any of my friends I am just guessing based off of the typology reports I've read that I am stereotypical ENFP. But I digress,
I can take a lot of hits from alot of directions at the same time. In high school I was the kid to make fun, not because there was anything to make fun but because everyone loved me and knew they could kid around with me without me breaking. We have an amazing ability to take whatever life throws at us and run with it in the moment but we do need time to recharge and that is usually alone time or with our significant other. We demand physical attention, though we don't verbally express it. We try to will others to love us and to touch us. If I am right then I think most ENFP's, no matter the age, still believe/wish that they could mentally communicate with others, especially the one they love.
We have such a myriad of emotions and often I think when going into a relationship we express them too quickly and scare others away. I am about to embark into a relationship with an INFJ and I am scared stiff that I will scare her, I just need love!
We are equally as comfortable online as we are in real life and I think that we are more capable than others at portraying ourselves with words. I have never been in an uncomfortable situation with strangers or friends though I do tire of situations sometimes. Not uncomfortable, just bored or annoyed.
We hate hate hate being told what to do. If you ask nicely and I know you are going to reward me with love then there is a good chance I'll do it relatively quick, if it's just doing something for the sake of doing something, forget it.
I like sleeping naked, just thought I'd bounce that one off ya'll and see if it resonates.
I love the outdoors and feel very connected to nature and the universe as a whole. I worry about the destruction of foreign cultures before I can see them and my biggest fear is that the world will "globalize" before I can see everything in it's uniqueness, without blaring yellow arches and big box stores.
We secretly worry about other's perceptions of us and often feel like we aren't as popular as we are.
We are storytellers and often use it to try and help other people move forward.
We'd like for all of our friends to understand why exploring is so essential to life.
hmmm that's all I can think of right now. I'm going to be watching this thread carefully now that I have found this community!
Why on earth do people get undressed(normal clothes), and then dressed again(pj's) to go to sleep??
Originally Posted by INTJMom
Ah well, everyone's different.
I probably shouldn't have said what I did.
A lot of INTJs think they want to be married to another INTJ!
I have always been attracted to Ps and have been married to an ISTP for 25 years!
No you were fine to post whatever you liked, i'm only joking about the gulf in world view between an SJ and an NP. I think an SJ/NP match is one of the most difficult to overcome. (plus i'm an NP and I'm dating an NP... going rather well actually, even if i do say so myself!! Though we are sometimes late out of the door... )