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    Quote Originally Posted by niffer View Post
    <...reassurance...>I watch for it, and I love it, and usually get paranoid when I have to go without it more than usual...but I don't want people to know that I need it. That's just one of the many things I like to keep inside of me. I don't like seeming needy in any way. I'm usually alright with people knowing my weak points, though. I dunno. I think it's because I don't want people to think I'll slow them down or drain them out, or ever feel guilty or obliged to have to do something for me so that I can keep up.

    One of the main messages I want to send to the world is to go on the way it wants to; that I can just bend and re-mold myself and catch up on my own...partially to prove myself worthy and partially to show that I understand and accomodate, and I want to. It's like tagging along with your older cousin. And if they like the me the way I am, I'll show more and more of me, because they'll realize that all the bending and molding I do isn't exactly the way I truly am even though I enjoy doing it, and that I can't always change myself or catch up without help, and I don't always understand. And so maybe, just maybe, they'll help me in a way that doesn't make me have to bend and swallow and rewire myself in order to survive; a way during which I can relax and just get what I need emotionally without a hot fuss (all the questions and doubting and criticism just wears little old sensitive me out)..
    Man, I love it here! No one else understands this!!!!! I can't help but need reassurance but I don't want people to know I need it... I want them to see it in me without looking down on me for it... or something... You said it so perfectly. That is exactly how it is.
    Thank you.

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    I'm curious to know about how you enfp's typed yourself, when you first encountered this sort of personality testing. Did you get it right the first time, or did it take you a while to work out who you were?

    This probably has a lot to do with the age you are when you first try, though. How well you know yourself, and the like.

    But for me: for the longest time I was sure I was an introvert, because I'm a naturally quiet person. When I interact with people, even strangers, I'm easily an extrovert, but I'm not usually comfortable with being the center of attention in a crowd. (Of course, that also has a bit to do with the fact I was much younger, and being unsure of yourself and who you are.)

    Also, I think I kept categorizing myself as a thinker, because I was naturally a fairly bright student in school and understood things easily.. therefore my brain had to work logically and analytically, didn't it? In fact, I'm actually very much a feeler.

    (Maybe this should go somewhere else? But I'm interested in seeing if there's any similarities in the way enfps tend to type (or mistype) themselves.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by findthejake View Post
    wowzer. So I totally put myself out there and this crazy infj chick is stomping my heart into a million little pieces why she battles demons in her brain. I am feeling my pain and her pain and it is destroying me. I need a tranquilizer shot or to be put into a coma or something until she figures out what the hell she is doing. It's bad enough feeling my own pain but to feel hers on top of it without understanding why she is doing this, it's more pain than I can bare.
    I need a therapist...or her to call me....
    Yeah, them INFJ's are totally nuts. What you need in this case is patience. I don't know if talking to her will help. o.o Peace should follow after a while of waiting though. Don't worry too much.
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    holy shit am I a feeler?
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    yeah no worries, It's all gravy now. She's a total nutjob but I think I love her. She needs me to pull her out and give her courage and I need her to keep me grounded.

    _Ti_ - That post on page 18 was amazingly right on. I have always wanted the one who hurt me to love me back to them. I'm also a total baby when I'm sick.

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    Quote Originally Posted by niffer View Post
    One of the main messages I want to send to the world is to go on the way it wants to; that I can just bend and re-mold myself and catch up on my own...partially to prove myself worthy and partially to show that I understand and accomodate, and I want to. It's like tagging along with your older cousin. And if they like the me the way I am, I'll show more and more of me, because they'll realize that all the bending and molding I do isn't exactly the way I truly am even though I enjoy doing it, and that I can't always change myself or catch up without help, and I don't always understand. And so maybe, just maybe, they'll help me in a way that doesn't make me have to bend and swallow and rewire myself in order to survive; a way during which I can relax and just get what I need emotionally without a hot fuss (all the questions and doubting and criticism just wears little old sensitive me out)...without it is like getting fed grapes in bed. And maybe, they'll actually enjoy it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by findthejake View Post
    yeah no worries, It's all gravy now. She's a total nutjob but I think I love her. She needs me to pull her out and give her courage and I need her to keep me grounded.

    _Ti_ - That post on page 18 was amazingly right on. I have always wanted the one who hurt me to love me back to them. I'm also a total baby when I'm sick.

    you do realize only enfp's can love total nut jobs? lol ..... I mean after all it takes one to know one




    do you ever feel like you're trapped in an never ending Fi loop? Where you're spinning round and round and you want to just off and grab hold of that Ne but it just never seems to materialize? Any idea how to make the leap when the Fi gets to be overwhelming? I mean what do you do?
    ~t ...in need of hugs please...
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    Quote Originally Posted by targo View Post
    you do realize only enfp's can love total nut jobs? lol ..... I mean after all it takes one to know one

    SO TRUE! I have an ISTP...or is that ISTJ friend and she is SO CRUEL! She tells me to basically not associate with certain people because they are 'damaged beyond repair' and even referred me to her therapist when I was telling her about a new person I got involved with.

    HAHAHAHAAHAH.


    WTH.

    I love people and I enjoy crazy and sometimes it's just for giggles and sometimes it's for a real connection, as fleeting as it may be, but I think I personally get a lot from these interactions and I like to think the other person is as well, or else they would not be associating with me.

    I think being an ENFP may also mean that we accept people as they are -- even if we don't like them or even despise them or don't even understand them, we don't necessarily judge them as something BAD or WRONG with them and that they need to be 'fixed'. Even with people who I think are asshoesl, they're just assholes. Or just crazy. It is what it is and they are who they are. And as for people who I personally dislike or can't be around, I just move on and I don't try to change them.

    Does that resonate with anyone?

    I have also noticed though, a bad side effect of this (especially if you are female) is that sometimes guys misinterpret this open-minded attitude for interest? And sometimes people with actual mental health issues can kind of project onto me or else attach themselves and get way too familiar with me too quickly, even though I do NOT reciprocate this kind of feeling of closeness. I merely accept them at face (and deeper true) value and am probably the first person in a long time to show them any true kindness.

    When I was a kid, all the moms with the 'problem kids' would make play dates with me because I was the ONLY KID in the whole neighborhood who could put up with their children. When I think of this now, it pisses me off a bit, but I do see the parallels to my adult life.

    Anyone else experience this?

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    yes. It's in the list of "curses" instead of "blessings" for me. I get so tired of being everybody's best friend, the one they can share anything with when very few of them will listen to what I need to share. It gets tiresome.

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    Quote Originally Posted by findthejake View Post
    yes. It's in the list of "curses" instead of "blessings" for me. I get so tired of being everybody's best friend, the one they can share anything with when very few of them will listen to what I need to share. It gets tiresome.
    yes I resonate with this

    it's hard when everyone wants to tell me all about them and wants my help to fix them but as soon as I need them or start talking I get.... it's not always about you tara what about me. *sigh* it hurts
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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    I think being an ENFP may also mean that we accept people as they are -- even if we don't like them or even despise them or don't even understand them, we don't necessarily judge them as something BAD or WRONG with them and that they need to be 'fixed'. Even with people who I think are asshoesl, they're just assholes. Or just crazy. It is what it is and they are who they are. And as for people who I personally dislike or can't be around, I just move on and I don't try to change them.
    ROFL, yes. Whenever someone asks my opinion of someone they don't like for whatever reason:

    "He's an asshole, but he's alright."
    or-
    "He's such a pussy. Sometimes I just wanna slap him and tell him to be a man. But he's a nice guy and he means well."

    or-
    me: "Nicky's pretty cool."
    them: "Nicky's a bitch."
    me: "But she's a cool bitch."
    them: *shrugs*
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