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[ENFJ] ENFJ & INFP

FunnyDigestion

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My younger brother & sister are both ENFJ (or tested as that when I made them take the test), & we always get along well. They're both socially considerate & very thoughtful, pretty open to weirdness & new ideas, & rarely feel compelled to argue about stupid stuff, which I think makes them great with INFPs (even better with ISFPs).
 

ikia

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May 7, 2012
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replies from an female enfj..

Perhaps this is just an individual problem, but I feel like I bore ENFJs quite easily. (Any other INFPs feel this way?)

They seem so interested at first. I feel completely comfortable to be myself. And after I'm done telling them my life story (how did you get me to do that by the way? :shock:). I feel like I have nothing more to say to them that they might find remotely interesting, and yet I want to keep talking to them, being close to them. I want to be around them, perhaps out of need to feel as accepted as they often make me feel.

It often times makes me wonder: really, what's in it for you guys? It seems you are so busy discovering the INFP, who is going to discover you? How can I make you feel as loved as you make me feel?

After the initial, "I'd like to get to know you" phase wears off, I feel so suddenly like I have to run after the ENFJ, or they will forever become a vanishing form on that rapidly fleeing train that is their life.

I don't know about other ENFJs, but I don't think INFPs bore me out. they're so interesting people! and there're times when I just want to hear the person's voice or hear about the perspectives the person has now cos i believe that everyone grows along the way, and there may be different perspectives now that times has passed. hearing an infp share deeply feels like a privilege to enfjs cos enfjs think that sharing deeply is HARD. just keep sharing, i think your enfj friend will appreciate it..
and i really like how you ask who's going to discover youi? have you tried asking this to your friend? :) cos i know that i will really really appreciate it if someone wants to discover me, since i spend so much time discovering others, and few actually do take the initiative to discover who i am. they naturally assume that i am what i portray to them on the outside, forgetting that we ponder a lot as well.
 

Pink Memories

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May 23, 2012
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Lost crush on ENFJ

This is for ENFJ guys. So I had a crush on this ENFJ guy after our first encounter freshmen year in college. I decided to avoid him but throughout 4 years of college he always gazed at me whenever we passed each other. I felt strong connection with him and suspect till this day that he was also mysteriously drawn to me even though I kept ignoring him. It's been 6 years now and I find myself thinking of him more and more because I never allowed myself to crush on him.

My 1st question is: do you think he had a crush on me because he would always make sure to look at me even though I acted all cold for more than 3 yrs!

2nd question is: I've being obsessing with the idea of writing him a love letter confessing my feelings...how would a ENFJ guy respond? Would he care or be nice about it?
 

highlander

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I think maybe INFPs and ENFPs would annoy he hell out of each other
 
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