Sorry, I haven't actually read all of the thread - it's pretty long. So I may be missing vital info.
Edit: I think trying to hurry him through the process he's undergoing is probably the easiest and quickest way to become The Rebound Girl. It's been fairly extensively argued already on this forum, but I personally don't believe guys have a "friend zone" for girls they find attractive. So that's not really something you need to worry about imo.