[MBTI General] What do INFPs think of INTPs?

[lachrymose_liar]

one of my close friends is an intp. initially it was hard getting to know each other, but once we did we shared several common interests and thought processes. although, sometimes she feels a bit cold...

 

[Nijntje]

I generally click with them quickly in real life, and we have a lot to talk about. We usually "get" each other pretty well and conversing feels very natural and easy.

Problems can arise if the INTP gets argumentative and/or inadvertently (or purposely...) steps on the INFPs toes and offends some value of theirs, or if the INFP gets too sensitive. This is always how my friendships with INTPs have ended....they get hostile and belligerent.

yes, yes and yes. I've found it's been the misunderstandings which have caused the biggest fall-outs, mainly because once my values or core beliefs are questioned/offended often unintentionally, through logical questioning or hypothesis, i can be incredibly stubborn in not wanting to see the 'rational' side of things.

They are however, as a rule, my favourite pains in the arse

 

[mortabunt]

An INFP I know described me as callous. .

 

[Totenkindly]

I think many INFP's could very easily be mistaken for INTPs to a casual observer. I see lots of strong similarities, and lots of general compatibility.

yes, and especially if both veer towards Enneagram Type Nine "peacemaker" styles of interaction.

 

[Stanton Moore]

I have a friend, who happens to be an architect, but I dont think he is an INtP, because he seems devoid of any intuition, or it's weak...maybe he's mostly ISTP. I don't know for sure. But I had to cut him loose as a friend, because he's so friggin' selfish and emotionaly closed off. He just likes to play golf and fuck, that's about it. DEEP.

 

[mortabunt]

He's an ISTP. INTP's want realationships, then sex.

 

[INA]

An INFP I know described me as callous. .

One told me he liked my stiff upper lip. Then he tried to kiss it.

 

[Lauren Ashley]

One told me he liked my stiff upper lip. Then he tried to kiss it.

 

[Udog]

yes, and especially if both veer towards Enneagram Type Nine "peacemaker" styles of interaction.

Yes. I get this type of thing alot in real life.

One thing I love about INTPs is that they taught me how to analytically parse a joke and not take it personally. I learned that something that may be offensive on the surface is usually not directed at me personally, but rather poking fun by intentionally breaking some social construct or whatnot.

 

[OrangeAppled]

yes, yes and yes. I've found it's been the misunderstandings which have caused the biggest fall-outs, mainly because once my values or core beliefs are questioned/offended often unintentionally, through logical questioning or hypothesis, i can be incredibly stubborn in not wanting to see the 'rational' side of things.

They are however, as a rule, my favourite pains in the arse

This isn't really what I meant. I can't say I've ever had an INTP "enlighten" me on much of anything, and in fact I changed their perspectives on a few things, once they actually let me present my side.
I find them to be terribly stubborn also, but I know I am as well.

However, they are interesting to talk with and have great, unique sense of humors.

 

[mortabunt]

Next.

 

[mortabunt]

Strangely, a lot of INFP's look up to me.

 

[WoodsWoman]

Strangely, a lot of INFP's look up to me.

Are you tall?

 

[mortabunt]

No, it's just that they are awed by my logic.

 

[Udog]

Actually, INFPs are just easily amused. We are awed by shiny things, as well.

 

[mortabunt]

I hope your avatar doesn't attack the metal on my pencil then.

 

[Into It]

The perceptions of the INTP can seem biting and uncomfortable. They are usually accurate though...so this discomfort is due to the fact that your present reality is not actually reality when you are corrected. I do not believe there is any other type on the whole who has the power of criticism that the INTP has. I do find them very easy to deal with, though i approach subjects somewhat differently in their presence.

For instance, I have a tendency to slide from the upper crust of one very big topic to the next. With INTPs, I try to focus on all of the strata of one particular topic, which they are especially adept at considering, in my experience.

But I do find them formidable, and I do not waste my time debating with INTP contrarians when I am not well informed. Overall, if an INTP clearly has a heart, they may be the most interesting type to me. Just dangerous to the ego, sometimes.

 

[Scott N Denver]

The perceptions of the INTP can seem biting and uncomfortable. They are usually accurate though...so this discomfort is due to the fact that your present reality is not actually reality when you are corrected. I do not believe there is any other type on the whole who has the power of criticism that the INTP has. I do find them very easy to deal with, though i approach subjects somewhat differently in their presence.

For instance, I have a tendency to slide from the upper crust of one very big topic to the next. With INTPs, I try to focus on all of the strata of one particular topic, which they are especially adept at considering, in my experience.

But I do find them formidable, and I do not waste my time debating with INTP contrarians when I am not well informed. Overall, if an INTP clearly has a heart, they may be the most interesting type to me. Just dangerous to the ego, sometimes.

I've never had a problem dealing with INTP's. Even when they thought differently than I, when I explained my thinking, they saw it and understood it.

I think that, moreso than any other type, they require logical consistency. And not everyone can provide that.

Personally, my beefs are usually with the NTJ's, especially when they are condescending and belittling. An INTP will at least listen to you and try to understand what your saying. IME, NTJ's are the one's who will interrupt you mid-sentence with "you are wrong!" and then stare at you like your an idiotic fluffy bunny who is unworthy of their time and attention and great thoughts while not listening to you.

NTJ's, and TJ's in general, have more of a pragmatic way of thinking, so I think others will more often defer to them and the pragmatic effectiveness of their approach, whereas INTP's strive for logical consistency which others can't necessarily provide and probably isn't pragmatically effective within whatever given situation. More "pie in the sky" kinda thinking.

 

[BlueGray]

I'm curious what defines your "clearly has a heart".

 

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I adore INTP's.

I've never had a problem dealing with INTP's. Even when they thought differently than I, when I explained my thinking, they saw it and understood it.

I think that, more so than any other type, they require logical consistency. And not everyone can provide that.

Personally, my beefs are usually with the NTJ's, especially when they are condescending and belittling. An INTP will at least listen to you and try to understand what your saying.

^Correct, that's been my experience too.

...But I do find them formidable, and I do not waste my time debating with INTP contrarians when I am not well informed. Overall, if an INTP clearly has a heart, they may be the most interesting type to me. Just dangerous to the ego, sometimes.

I'm curious what defines your "clearly has a heart".

+1 -What do you mean by "clearly has a heart?"

If you're shooting the bull with an INTP; let's say you don't know what you're talking about and the INTP does... you're not going to get the INTP to agree with you for the sake of sparing your ego. Is that what you mean by having a heart? The INTP will enthusiastically teach you something though. This reminds me even more why I sure like INTP's. Smarties they are.

Problems can arise if the INTP gets argumentative and/or inadvertently (or purposely...) steps on the INFPs toes and offends some value of theirs, ....they get hostile and belligerent.

I have never had an INTP step on my toes or get hostile in conversation. They are passionate sometimes when they're talking, but I like that. Honestly, I respect INTP's and what they say seems to just make sense to me.

Our (INFP/INTP) ways are very similar in many regards. INTP's are everything else I wish I could be...