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    Quote Originally Posted by toonia View Post
    Persistence in pursuit tends to have a negative connotation in my experience. It can feel like intrusion, disrespect, and entitlement. It has never worked. This is especially true if I have created a boundary to stop or minimize the pursuit that is ignored. The following are important.

    Honesty
    Willingness to listen and respond in a meaningful way.
    Ability to see and appreciate what I have to offer that is different than a million other people.
    Luckily I fail at pursuit, weeps. Which is good and bad, good if its wanted, bad if it isn't.

    Why is honesty difficult for a person to express. I've noticed that communication everywhere goes in one ear and out the other and not just in relationships, but across the board, family, friends, work etc.

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    It's different from person to person.

    Myself? There have been times where guys have been persistent. But more in the obnoxious, not-so-subtle kind of way. I don't dig that. At all. But, if a guy is going to try being persistent with me at all, I would like it to be quietly, gently. Asking questions. Taking the time to get to know who I am. Not showing off and trying to impress me. However, that's just me. But, taking the time to getting to know a woman for the individual she is actually is a great start. If she rejects you, it's your choice to continue the pursuit or not. However, keep in mind that, while you do so, you could be missing the opportunity with someone that fits your own personality better. And, if a woman still doesn't want anything to do with you despite anything you've tried, she actually may not be worth your time and effort. Just be you.
    I have no idea who I am. All I can say is let's rock hard.

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    Oh, I WANT to know. *clutches both hands*

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mace View Post
    Oh, I WANT to know. *clutches both hands*
    ROFL Yes. Read the books of all the great masters and you shall accumulate the knowledge of the universe. XD
    I have no idea who I am. All I can say is let's rock hard.

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    I think just being myself is what got me into this mess in the first place.
    I know a girl, she's one of a kind
    But the poor little thing, she's going out of her mind
    There's something you forgot - there's a reason why she's lost
    Cos baby she don't want to be found

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wade Wilson View Post
    I think just being myself is what got me into this mess in the first place.
    How so?
    I have no idea who I am. All I can say is let's rock hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    A guy can win my heart simply by giving me his. Men past adolescence don't seem to be very up to this idea. Y'all keep your hearts on close watch. But putting someone's needs above your own and forgetting all the petty crap will make any heart melt.
    You sure about that?

    What if you just didn't find him attractive? Are you saying that being selfless automatically makes any man attractive, and that theoretically any man could make you love him simply by showing selflessness toward you?
    If you could be anything you want, I bet you'd be disappointed--am I right?

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    Quote Originally Posted by GinKuusouka View Post
    How so?
    Well, it's not so much being myself I suppose, as much as no one I could even remotely have a decent conversation with where I am. :P

    At least not with scaring them the hell off. >.>
    I know a girl, she's one of a kind
    But the poor little thing, she's going out of her mind
    There's something you forgot - there's a reason why she's lost
    Cos baby she don't want to be found

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wade Wilson View Post
    Well, it's not so much being myself I suppose, as much as no one I could even remotely have a decent conversation with where I am. :P

    At least not with scaring them the hell off. >.>
    I see. I know the feeling, to an extent. Trust me, there's not a lot of intelligence where I'm from. One reason why I'm glad I'm imaginative. o_O; I can keep myself occupied.

    What is it like where you are?
    I have no idea who I am. All I can say is let's rock hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GinKuusouka View Post
    I see. I know the feeling, to an extent. Trust me, there's not a lot of intelligence where I'm from. One reason why I'm glad I'm imaginative. o_O; I can keep myself occupied.

    What is it like where you are?
    Ever see the movie Gone Baby Gone? heh...

    On the flip side, it's all business suits and briefcases.

    No middle ground whatsoever.
    I know a girl, she's one of a kind
    But the poor little thing, she's going out of her mind
    There's something you forgot - there's a reason why she's lost
    Cos baby she don't want to be found

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