Persistence in pursuit tends to have a negative connotation in my experience. It can feel like intrusion, disrespect, and entitlement. It has never worked. This is especially true if I have created a boundary to stop or minimize the pursuit that is ignored. The following are important.
Willingness to listen and respond in a meaningful way.
Ability to see and appreciate what I have to offer that is different than a million other people.
Luckily I fail at pursuit, weeps. Which is good and bad, good if its wanted, bad if it isn't.
Why is honesty difficult for a person to express. I've noticed that communication everywhere goes in one ear and out the other and not just in relationships, but across the board, family, friends, work etc.
Myself? There have been times where guys have been persistent. But more in the obnoxious, not-so-subtle kind of way. I don't dig that. At all. But, if a guy is going to try being persistent with me at all, I would like it to be quietly, gently. Asking questions. Taking the time to get to know who I am. Not showing off and trying to impress me. However, that's just me. But, taking the time to getting to know a woman for the individual she is actually is a great start. If she rejects you, it's your choice to continue the pursuit or not. However, keep in mind that, while you do so, you could be missing the opportunity with someone that fits your own personality better. And, if a woman still doesn't want anything to do with you despite anything you've tried, she actually may not be worth your time and effort. Just be you.
I have no idea who I am. All I can say is let's rock hard.
A guy can win my heart simply by giving me his. Men past adolescence don't seem to be very up to this idea. Y'all keep your hearts on close watch. But putting someone's needs above your own and forgetting all the petty crap will make any heart melt.
You sure about that?
What if you just didn't find him attractive? Are you saying that being selfless automatically makes any man attractive, and that theoretically any man could make you love him simply by showing selflessness toward you?
If you could be anything you want, I bet you'd be disappointed--am I right?